Ex-GF's Husband Hijacked her FB?

[bigneil]

So a girl I used to date (but haven't been interested in for 4+ years) who got married and had a kid is now a FB friend and I genuinely liked her family so we stayed in touch. She had told me about her husband way back in 2012. I told her how they needed to stay together forever because single moms are terrible parents.

Anyhow, today I got a bizarre FB message from "her" that read:

"Never message me again you (profanity laced tirade). Got a problem? Message her husband (his first and last name)."

Can you see the problem with this message?

She would have written "message my husband", she knows I know his first name, and she knows I know his last name (after all, it's now her name). So it was 90% likely him. Also, she never spoke to me that way, even when she was telling me off in much worse ways. Luckily, when still assuming it was her, I held my temper and didn't respond (but unfriended her, which perplexingly she hadn't done yet).

Anyhow, a word of warning why FB is a bad idea. Friends and lovers of friends will see your posts (about GD football of all things) and assume you are involved even if you couldn't care less about their girl.

 

[Glassguy]

Screen shot it and send it to her through phone text. Tell her you want to know if she sent it because it seemed very bizarre.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

"Insecure much?"

I don't have any form of social media anymore, but if someone messaged me that now, I'd reply with something like that.

 

[Thatfeel21]

He must of found out that you two used to fvck and got insecure about it. A lot of women like to downplay certain guys they're "friends" with on facebook; usually takes a guy going with his gut on whether or not that guy has and always was just a "friend"

 

[exhausted]

Makes sense.
Sounds like this guy's wife is talking to her exes and that is crossing his boundary of trust.
He most likely flipped on her and then sent u that message.

Good for him for being an alpha.

Has nothing to do with insecurity has to do with respect and loyalty and a married woman should not be talking to exes other than" hi hope u are well", especially about her marriage.

 

[TheCuckSlayer]

Tell him his pole isn't the first one that stripper's slid on

 

[bigneil]

Makes sense.
Sounds like this guy's wife is talking to her exes and that is crossing his boundary of trust.
He most likely flipped on her and then sent u that message.

Good for him for being an alpha.

Sorry, but hijacking your girls social media and writing to men who lost interest in her years ago IS NOT ALPHA. Stalkers wish!

He must of found out that you two used to fvck and got insecure about it. A lot of women like to downplay certain guys they're "friends" with on facebook; usually takes a guy going with his gut on whether or not that guy has and always was just a "friend"

If he looked through my FB photos he'd see she is about 15 girls back in the list (March 2012 was the last photo of her, he met her May 2012).

 

[exhausted]

Sorry, but hijacking your girls social media and writing to men who lost interest in her years ago IS NOT ALPHA. Stalkers wish!


If he looked through my FB photos he'd see she is about 15 girls back in the list (March 2012 was the last photo of her, he met her May 2012).

Hijacking? That's an assumption.
Maybe he was getting bad vibes and investigated. In today's day and age of souless women maybe he took a look amd found something inappropriate.
A wife talking to an ex about her marriage is innapropriate. Confiding in other men is inappropriate.
What should he have done? Stood by and nothing? Divorce? Be a ***** and allow it?
How would you handle that? I'm genuinely asking.

 

[bigneil]

Hijacking? That's an assumption.
Maybe he was getting bad vibes and investigated. In today's day and age of souless women maybe he took a look amd found something inappropriate.
A wife talking to an ex about her marriage is innapropriate. Confiding in other men is inappropriate.
What should he have done? Stood by and nothing? Divorce? Be a ***** and allow it?
How would you handle that? I'm genuinely asking.

Since she married, she and I never exchanged an inappropriate word. I had lost interest before because she gained too much weight. I would never have tried to get her to cheat. I had no interest and cared about her staying married. I'm also dating a girl much younger, much prettier, much more faithful, with no kids, who loves me far more than the other girl ever did. No contest.

As if I've never had suspicion of the women I've been with (as I date 21 year old strippers)! I would still never read their phones or texts. It shows incredible insecurity and it's an invasion of privacy.

 

[dude99]

So a girl I used to date (but haven't been interested in for 4+ years) who got married and had a kid is now a FB friend and I genuinely liked her family so we stayed in touch. She had told me about her husband way back in 2012. I told her how they needed to stay together forever because single moms are terrible parents.

Anyhow, today I got a bizarre FB message from "her" that read:

"Never message me again you (profanity laced tirade). Got a problem? Message her husband (his first and last name)."

Can you see the problem with this message?

She would have written "message my husband", she knows I know his first name, and she knows I know his last name (after all, it's now her name). So it was 90% likely him. Also, she never spoke to me that way, even when she was telling me off in much worse ways. Luckily, when still assuming it was her, I held my temper and didn't respond (but unfriended her, which perplexingly she hadn't done yet).

Anyhow, a word of warning why FB is a bad idea. Friends and lovers of friends will see your posts (about GD football of all things) and assume you are involved even if you couldn't care less about their girl.

Yeah that was a Freudian slip on his part. She wouldn't speak of her husband in 3rd person if it was her talking to you.

Looks like her still having contact with you intimidated him.

 

[bigneil]

I feel bad for him. I know her. 6 years ago, she had unprotected sex with me within 15 minutes of our meeting, when she was 19 and I was 41. Then we dated for 2.5 years. Meaning 99.9999% of the time we were together was AFTER sex. She kept me in her life for 2 years of dating him (telling me she liked me best) and then told me after they got married it was over. How many other men who get engaged are in a situation like his and don't know it?

 

[bigneil]

That's why I actually respected my new stripper when she told me I was one of her 3 lovers. That's something I might actually be able to believe.

 

[exhausted]

Since she married, she and I never exchanged an inappropriate word. I had lost interest before because she gained too much weight. I would never have tried to get her to cheat. I had no interest and cared about her staying married. I'm also dating a girl much younger, much prettier, much more faithful, with no kids, who loves me far more than the other girl ever did. No contest.

As if I've never had suspicion of the women I've been with (as I date 21 year old strippers)! I would still never read their phones or texts. It shows incredible insecurity and it's an invasion of privacy.

Gotcha.
I dont check phones or emails either.
Just saying maybe he caught onto something but if there was nothing inappropriate between you 2 then he clearly has more problems.
Sounds like he knows she is a *****.

 

[dude99]

I feel bad for him. I know her. 6 years ago, she had unprotected sex with me within 15 minutes of our meeting, when she was 19 and I was 41. Then we dated for 2.5 years. Meaning 99.9999% of the time we were together was AFTER sex. She kept me in her life for 2 years of dating him (telling me she liked me best) and then told me after they got married it was over. How many other men who get engaged are in a situation like his and don't know it?

Well he can look at it one of two ways. He can understand his wife has a past and knew people before he came along and accept it or he can let the thought of his wife's history fester in his head and let it eat his own happiness.

Either way no sweat off of your back

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Pfft. This is anything but alpha behaviour. If I had any inclination that my wife was so much as flirting with other men, I would start banging other birds without a moment's hesitation.

Your woman's fidelity is her own responsibility, not that of other men.

 

[exhausted]

Pfft. This is anything but alpha behaviour. If I had any inclination that my wife was so much as flirting with other men, I would start banging other birds without a moment's hesitation.

Your woman's fidelity is her own responsibility, not that of other men.

U wouldn't say anything to her or the men she is talking to behind ur back??
Banging chicks is easy.
My wife Didnt cheat but she became a **** wife and partner, i called her told her i was putting all her **** outside that she is gone, have her dad and bro come get it or it goes in the trash and if they want to make a problem i would be happy to beat the brakes off both of them in front of my own mother.
That's the problem these days men (not u obvioulsy) allow their women to sneak around and there are no consequences for dudes hitting up married women.

U think people tried to sneak around in old days when u would get ur ass hammered and society would exile u for chasing married women or the woman cheating being divorced?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

U wouldn't say anything to her or the men she is talking to behind ur back??

What's the point. As far as I would be concerned, those individuals would no longer warrant my time, anxiety, effort, or anything, even a second thought. Obviously I'd not remain married to her for very much longer. But giving someone a jolly good talking to will achieve nothing, effing and blinding behind your wife's FB account will do nothing except make you weak(er) and bitter. I mean, this guy is pathetic, doesn't even message from his own account. All talk and no b0llocks if you ask me.

Sure I'd have a hard time banging someone else's wife; I had it offered to me on a plate only last summer, which I declined. Not everyone shares that moral value and no amount of preaching at them will change anything. Actions speak far louder than words. So long as the world keeps spinning, men and women will keep on fcking each other, regardless of personal circumstance or what anyone else says or thinks. Like I said it was her that took an oath of loyalty, not the guy she's fcking. He doesn't owe anyone anything. That's the law of the jungle, sausage.

 

[exhausted]

What's the point. As far as I would be concerned, those individuals would no longer warrant my time, anxiety, effort, or anything, even a second thought. Obviously I'd not remain married to her for very much longer. But giving someone a jolly good talking to will achieve nothing, effing and blinding behind your wife's FB account will do nothing except make you weak(er) and bitter. I mean, this guy is pathetic, doesn't even message from his own account. All talk and no b0llocks if you ask me.

Sure I'd have a hard time banging someone else's wife; I had it offered to me on a plate only last summer, which I declined. Not everyone shares that moral value and no amount of preaching at them will change anything. Actions speak far louder than words. So long as the world keeps spinning, men and women will keep on fcking each other, regardless of personal circumstance or what anyone else says or thinks. Like I said it was her that took an oath of loyalty, not the guy she's fcking. He doesn't owe anyone anything. That's the law of the jungle, sausage.

Makes sense.
Yes if something needed said I would show up in person not message thro her account.
Then toss her out. Ha

 

[bigneil]

I emailed her a heads up and she wrote back and said I should ignore him (that I was correct though).

She said he doesn't know it yet, but they are getting a divorce. I was so sad to hear that. I asked her to reconsider her decision for the child's sake, but another single mom is entering the dating market. This was a man who she was head over heels with in 2012, and he was the reason she vanished from my life after 6 months, only to return. I suppose I knew from the fact she cheated on him with me that she didn't love him, but it's still really sad to think that marriage with a beautiful woman seems impossible.

 

[playa99]

The dude has an idea Sh!t is going south and clearly can't accept/handle it!

Gents: the moment you need to check your woman's phone is the moment your relationship is Done!