Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Ex from 2 years ago wants me to meet her current BF.

Zaraza

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Ever happen to you? Her and I stay in touch... barely... but when shes in town she will hit me up and we will catch up, see how life is going. She texted me that sometime soon she will be in town with her BF and wants me to meet him.

Is it a way for her to gain some sort of self confidence? Looking for my approval?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It's a way for her to compare her new boy toy.

It's happened to me before. Although me and the girl were never exclusive. After giving me the "relationship" ultimatum and me rejecting the offer, she went and got a new boyfriend few months later. She then "showed" up with her new boy toy at the bar that I usually go to on certain nights.

The dude was nothing unique. He looked ok, not in a great shape, dressed ok, had a laid back personality that wasn't very exciting. The girl got the two of us talking basically qualifying ourselves to each other and her. I didn't realize what was going on at the time otherwise I would've totally turned the tables on her and had her qualify herself to me and the new guy.

But anyway, lo and behold, she took a break from him few weeks later. She tried to get back with me but I wasn't having it.

So yeah, it's a probably a way for her to see if she landed a better catch than you. Whether or not you really care to meet him is really up to you and how bored you are.
 

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"Sorry hun, I only do 3-ways with two chicks." *click*

But yes, you answered your own question it seems.
 

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She doesnt necessarily have ulterior motives. I know chicks do that soon after break ups, and I dont know what you and your ex are like, but it sounds to me like you are inactive friends, as it's been two years. Maybe she thinks you'd like the guy. Chicks do that kind of thing. I dont think she's trying to compare you two, (if she is, who cares, anyway?) or rub anything in your face. I know chicks will do that, but I doubt it, in your case.

I've had an ex invite me over to meet the guy she was just starting to hang out with, it it wasnt to make me jealous or anything. She actually wanted MY approval of him, and I thought he was a cool guy, and they are still together after two years. Of course, she invited me to her BBQ, and she told me he was going to stop by later, so its not like it was just me her and him. Me and that ex are friends like that. I fvcked her only a week before she met the guy, and I was ok with it.

If you dont want to, dont do it. It's as simple as that. I doubt that guy really wants to meet you either, actually. She's probably just oblivious to the fact that it's awkward.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Freeman

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Zaraza said:
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Ever happen to you? Her and I stay in touch... barely... but when shes in town she will hit me up and we will catch up, see how life is going. She texted me that sometime soon she will be in town with her BF and wants me to meet him.

Is it a way for her to gain some sort of self confidence? Looking for my approval?
its all a game--i wouldnt even fux with it-does she really think that you dont have a life that much that you would be willing to take out time of your busy day to "hangout" with them? Cancel that heartless ho@ and save your breath and time
 

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Why the hell would you be interested in someone's boyfriend? You're not, and therefore don't meet her.
 
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