"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ex Does the After the Break Up Call: Best ways to respond

Colinski282

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Well i was wondering some of the best ways to respond. I am not going to be rude hateful or immature, this girl could want some **** from me in the later future and i dont want to burn any bridges. Any advice or experiences will help alot thnx.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Straight from David D. himself:

As I mentioned, your best bet in this situation is to MOVE ON. Get on with it. Most importantly, start dating OTHER WOMEN IMMEDIATELY. Not in a few days, and not next week. NOW.
And stop calling your ex. Stop responding to her quickly. Stop being her WUSS-FRIEND.

It's obvious that the LAST thing you want is to wind up "just being friends" with her... so STOP DOING IT. Next time she calls, tell her you have a date over at the house, or you're leaving to meet a woman. Of course, make sure IT'S TRUE, like I said.

Stop being so AVAILABLE.
Get busy enjoying your life.
Get busy dating other women.

If you find yourself thinking about her and wanting to hear her voice, *****-SLAP yourself. If you're feeling weak, have a friend do it.

When you do wind up talking to her, say the following:

"Hey, calling for more therapy? No-can-do... I have to run to the gym to get in shape for my hot date on Friday..."

You feel me, dog?
And remember...
In this world "I was a nice guy and did nice things for her" doesn't cut it. Attraction has a totally different set of rules... and exceptions. And if you want to get and keep an attractive woman, then you'd better learn them.

It's a skill, and you're not going to get it by being "nice" and doing everything your mom taught you...
If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, she'll do almost anything to stay with him. If she DOESN'T feel it, then the chances are slim that she'll stay around.

Source / Website URL: http://www.alovelinksplus.com/advice/can-i-get-my-girlfriend-back.htm

*I put in bold what to say exactly, and while David D. was giving advice to someone who wanted to "win" her back, I bet you could still use the same response I put in bold. Good luck.
 

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Man, that was awesome advice from David D. It's funny how we think we can win over women by being or staying "nice." He was totally right on about understanding the rules of attraction and dating other women (spin more plates).

Honestly, who cares if she calls. You've moved on hopefully by now and have regained control of your life and learned the power of indifference. Fake it till you make it bro. When my ex started calling after 6 months out of the woodwork, I just ignored the calls and let those blocked calls keep on ringing with a big grin on my face.
 

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Colinski282 said:
Well i was wondering some of the best ways to respond. I am not going to be rude hateful or immature, this girl could want some **** from me in the later future and i dont want to burn any bridges. Any advice or experiences will help alot thnx.
Don't respond.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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