All right, long story short...I dated a woman for a little more than a year. I broke up with her constantly because I couldn't control my emotions around her; however, I always went back to her either because she called me or I called her. I took took her for granted until she started pushing me away. I was able to keep her at arms length because I've always been suspicious of her intentions.
She became very keen to how I would act and she knew that by pushing me away, I would chase her even more. It's like she was intentionally trying to get revenge on me because I acted like I didn't care. I did, but I had a difficult time balancing between caring for her and not giving into her demands too much. She has a very big ego and knows that men want her. She gave a lot early on in the relationship, but I constantly rejected her efforts.
The last time I broke up with her, she told me that she had went out with another guy who she said treated her differently then I did. She stated that she didn't want to end the relationship still and I'm not sure if she really went out with him or if she was trying to make me jealous. I lost it and at first, begged her not to do this, but then insulted her because she wouldn't take me back. I apologized for this and she tried to LJBF me.
I declined two of her offers to be just friends. She contacted me once to see how I was doing 3 days after she said she wanted to be friends, and now after 18 days of NC, she writes me on FB asking how everything is going. I do want her back, but I know I left things with her having all of the power. The last break up completely broke me down, but I was able to keep some dignity by going into NC. I'm on the No Contact Challenge and I haven't figured out how I want to approach this. I know that she can live without me (she has proven as much) and I can live without her, but I would like to give it one last shot when I'm emotionally stable.
Is this situation fixable?
She became very keen to how I would act and she knew that by pushing me away, I would chase her even more. It's like she was intentionally trying to get revenge on me because I acted like I didn't care. I did, but I had a difficult time balancing between caring for her and not giving into her demands too much. She has a very big ego and knows that men want her. She gave a lot early on in the relationship, but I constantly rejected her efforts.
The last time I broke up with her, she told me that she had went out with another guy who she said treated her differently then I did. She stated that she didn't want to end the relationship still and I'm not sure if she really went out with him or if she was trying to make me jealous. I lost it and at first, begged her not to do this, but then insulted her because she wouldn't take me back. I apologized for this and she tried to LJBF me.
I declined two of her offers to be just friends. She contacted me once to see how I was doing 3 days after she said she wanted to be friends, and now after 18 days of NC, she writes me on FB asking how everything is going. I do want her back, but I know I left things with her having all of the power. The last break up completely broke me down, but I was able to keep some dignity by going into NC. I'm on the No Contact Challenge and I haven't figured out how I want to approach this. I know that she can live without me (she has proven as much) and I can live without her, but I would like to give it one last shot when I'm emotionally stable.
Is this situation fixable?
