"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ex calls me. all of a sudden wants to hang out?

shortstop22

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here's the story, me and this chick dated for about a year, from my senior year in high school til i graduated. The relationship started out great, then it really sizzled out in the end. She was a very immature 17 year old HB 9, so I kinda expected this type of behavior, but it no way did I tolerate it. I dumped her after she disrespected me in front of her friends, and she kept playing stupid mind games.

I've hooked up with two chicks in college, but have not had sex since I was with her. I've been extremely busy at school, working out, studying, and just hanging out and woman are still the last thing one my mind.

Last week my ex calls and asks me to hang out, we're supposed to hang out tomorrow. However I'm still debating if its even worth it taking an hour or two out of my day to go to her house and hang out. It is very possible for me to get sex, but I'm questioning if I even want to see her...

Basically I need someone that has an experience similar to mine, so I can kind of a basic idea of what the whole idea of hanging out at her house, or if she has any other motives. Thanks in advance.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sounds like she wants coitus. The question is whether she also wants to get back together with you.

Think of the benefits and costs of doing this. It shouldn't be that hard of a decision.
 

Ebach

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Since you dumped her she has unresolved issues with you. Play her own games and leash her around. She will like it, I promise. Then you can do whatever you wish.
 

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A close friend of mine just broke up with his girl.

Then she acted same as your chick. Wanted to meet and have sex.

I've heard that they did and now they don't know if they are still together and not.

He love(d) her much and all but he's like fcuk her!


I still hate the fact he even looks at her anymore. When you say it's over it should be over. Well, my friend is quite a player. My best wingman. I think he's only in for *****.


Anyway, you should trust your instinct that say dump the *****.
You've already proven she isn't worth for you, immaturity, disrespect.
Do yourself a favour and go for the college chicks.
There are many things that are running out in this world, but women ain't one of them.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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n00bPimp

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I don't see what you have to lose by going over her house. If she's feeling frisky, then you get some ***** (assuming you like *****). So unless you have something more important to waste that time on, i suggest you go see her, but try not fall for her again because more often than not ex's are trouble.
 

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Just hang out, whats the big deal.

Any 9 that calls me and wants to 'hang out', yep they can come over.

Just keep your other options open with other girls, this one is just another notch in your bedpost.

I hangout with my ex every few weeks, and we're very close to doing it again.

Just do it, your young.
 
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