Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Firestar786

Firestar786

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Ex wife called me
Did not say anything over phone
I have arranged a divorce which takes 3 months to tAke affect which was given on 12th nov
Last time we spoke was on 31st dec nye
No contact since

Why is this crazy b1tch making contact ?
What should I do about it ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Johnny1986

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Keep your distance and remain NC for now imo unless you wanna reopen some old wounds
 
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I'm not married, nor have I ever been. That being said, you filed for divorce for a reason...
 
VladPatton

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You do nothing. Let it always go to voice mail. She can leave a message if it's important. Keep the calls in your phone for proof, don't delete it though.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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1. Per Vlad, you do nothing.
2. What is with all these people who thought it was a good idea to get married in their early 20s?
 
Firestar786

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I appreciate the comments

Got married for cultural and religious reasons

I'm confused why I should do nothing - advice ?
 
TheMonkeyKing

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Second the advice here.

As has been said, you filed divorce for one or several reasons. These are the same reasons for why you do not react to her calls. If nothing note-worthy was said during the call, then nothing has changed.

The reason she's calling: she's reflecting on the situation and probably her own actions and thinks talking might resolve things, when really you should both be reflecting and attempting to become better people as results of what has happened.

Was the divorce file a knee-jerk reaction? Have you tried simple separation?

Sometimes we need take a step back in order to create a space for us to walk in to.
 
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Firestar786 said:
Ex wife called me
Did not say anything over phone
I have arranged a divorce which takes 3 months to tAke affect which was given on 12th nov
Last time we spoke was on 31st dec nye
No contact since

Why is this crazy b1tch making contact ?
What should I do about it ?
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I mathafvcking love this post! It's brilliant! Just look at the subject, 'Ex wife called me!' and a smily face. Look at what he types, he's drunk ever since the divorce!


Ooooookie, ex wife called, yeassss! Let me post on sosuave and get advice on how to spin this plate! Return me the b1tch!!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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