"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Firestar786

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Ex wife called me
Did not say anything over phone
I have arranged a divorce which takes 3 months to tAke affect which was given on 12th nov
Last time we spoke was on 31st dec nye
No contact since

Why is this crazy b1tch making contact ?
What should I do about it ?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Keep your distance and remain NC for now imo unless you wanna reopen some old wounds
 
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I'm not married, nor have I ever been. That being said, you filed for divorce for a reason...
 
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You do nothing. Let it always go to voice mail. She can leave a message if it's important. Keep the calls in your phone for proof, don't delete it though.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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1. Per Vlad, you do nothing.
2. What is with all these people who thought it was a good idea to get married in their early 20s?
 
Firestar786

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I appreciate the comments

Got married for cultural and religious reasons

I'm confused why I should do nothing - advice ?
 
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Second the advice here.

As has been said, you filed divorce for one or several reasons. These are the same reasons for why you do not react to her calls. If nothing note-worthy was said during the call, then nothing has changed.

The reason she's calling: she's reflecting on the situation and probably her own actions and thinks talking might resolve things, when really you should both be reflecting and attempting to become better people as results of what has happened.

Was the divorce file a knee-jerk reaction? Have you tried simple separation?

Sometimes we need take a step back in order to create a space for us to walk in to.
 
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Firestar786 said:
Ex wife called me
Did not say anything over phone
I have arranged a divorce which takes 3 months to tAke affect which was given on 12th nov
Last time we spoke was on 31st dec nye
No contact since

Why is this crazy b1tch making contact ?
What should I do about it ?
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I mathafvcking love this post! It's brilliant! Just look at the subject, 'Ex wife called me!' and a smily face. Look at what he types, he's drunk ever since the divorce!


Ooooookie, ex wife called, yeassss! Let me post on sosuave and get advice on how to spin this plate! Return me the b1tch!!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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