"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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EX broke NC!!!!!

Jair213

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she sent me a letter

and in that letter she sent a picture of me wen i was 3 years old.

letter said as following.

I was looking through my things and found your photo. I thought you should have it back. Its a nice photo. I didn't want to keep something that is rightfully yours. Thats all.

.........

Thanks to you guys and sosuave I have learn and stick with the NC.

Our break was a nasty one she ****ed me over really bad.

It's being 10 months of NC till now that received this letter.

Watt do you guys think of this? Why would she even bother?

Is she using the picture as an excuse to talk to me? Maybe she wants to get me to talk to her again? :confused:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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bradd80 said:
She misses you, um correction she misses torturing you and making your life miserable. Don't fall into her trap, stay NC. You've done great so far, keep it u and don't give in to the temptation, you deserve better than that.

Good luck!

haha man, watt a harsh reply.

got ya tho ..
 

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bradd80 said:
She misses you, um correction she misses torturing you and making your life miserable. Don't fall into her trap, stay NC. You've done great so far, keep it u and don't give in to the temptation, you deserve better than that.

Good luck!
That ^

and that only.........
 

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There was nothing in the letter to say: "Please talk to me. I was such a bytch to you and I've hated myself every minute of every day since we broke up.
I'm so unbelievably sorry I treated you like crap and I completely deserve the fact that you haven't talked to me for 10 months.
I really am sorry and I hope you realise that. I just hope that one day we can talk again so I can tell you again how sorry I am. You were truly the best thing to happen to me and every day that passes without you is another dagger of regret in my already shattered heart.
I hope this photo I found of you goes some small way to re-establishing some contact in the future.
If not, I fully understand. I hope you're keeping well and I really, truly wish you all the best and hope my cvnt behaviour can be forgiven one day."

No, she didn't write anything like that. It was more like a half-arsed attempt to see if you'd take the bait and contact her so her goddamn brain hamster gets off the wheel for a second.
Do NOT take the bait. It's a half-hearted gesture with a half-hearted note.

You hold all the aces now, contacting her - even just to thank her for getting the photo to you - is playing her game and then she won't feel so bad about herself any more.

Don't do it.
 

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When I got divorced, my ex-wife ended up with all of our stuff. Over the next few years, I periodically received "care packages" that were basically my own things given back to me as gifts. That's how she dealt with her guilt.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If you really want to play with fire, do this:

Send her a short note thanking her for the photo. Write something like "Thanks for sending the photo of me when I was three years old. I appreciate it, so here's an updated photo of how I look today."

Of course, the new photo you send will be of you, looking bad ass, with a hot lass on your arm.

Ok, ok... Maybe not the best advice ever.

The Gambler
 

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The Gambler said:
If you really want to play with fire, do this:

Send her a short note thanking her for the photo. Write something like "Thanks for sending the photo of me when I was three years old. I appreciate it, so here's an updated photo of how I look today."

Of course, the new photo you send will be of you, looking bad ass, with a hot lass on your arm.

Ok, ok... Maybe not the best advice ever.

The Gambler
I dont mind playing with fire for a giggle, so THIS^^^^^^ I would do!!!:crackup:
 

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Greasy Pig said:
There was nothing in the letter to say: "Please talk to me. I was such a bytch to you and I've hated myself every minute of every day since we broke up.
I'm so unbelievably sorry I treated you like crap and I completely deserve the fact that you haven't talked to me for 10 months.
I really am sorry and I hope you realise that. I just hope that one day we can talk again so I can tell you again how sorry I am. You were truly the best thing to happen to me and every day that passes without you is another dagger of regret in my already shattered heart.
I hope this photo I found of you goes some small way to re-establishing some contact in the future.
If not, I fully understand. I hope you're keeping well and I really, truly wish you all the best and hope my cvnt behaviour can be forgiven one day."

No, she didn't write anything like that. It was more like a half-arsed attempt to see if you'd take the bait and contact her so her goddamn brain hamster gets off the wheel for a second.
Do NOT take the bait. It's a half-hearted gesture with a half-hearted note.

You hold all the aces now, contacting her - even just to thank her for getting the photo to you - is playing her game and then she won't feel so bad about herself any more.

Don't do it.
Totally agree. Either don't respond or say "thanks" and be on with your life.
 

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Jair213 said:
Watt do you guys think of this? Why would she even bother?

Is she using the picture as an excuse to talk to me? Maybe she wants to get me to talk to her again? :confused:

This has happened to me many times. They do it when they strike out with the guy they left you for. I've gotten back chords to electric razors, cds, t-shirts.. The cheesiest things I could care less about. It's a cowardly little probe on their part to see if they can get you back temporarily for self-esteem purposes. It's a waste of time, just tell her to buzz off if she contacts you again.
 

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bradd80 said:
OP, silence is always the most powerful, hurtful message you can send.
This. Stay away. She is trying to get your attention but that' all. Feeding the ego. Stay away.

Good luck man. You have done great.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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nah i aint contacting her for shiiitt ever again.. i thought it was ridiculious her sendin that letter.. but anyways..

i just look back and laugh at all the things that happen
 
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