"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

ex boyfriend still friends on FB

pyros

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 31, 2011
Messages
1,699
Reaction score
206
Hi.


Do find it ok that the girl you're dating keeps her ex on her FB?
do you find it ok that she keeps pictures of them? let's say she keeps some group pictures and a few pictures just the two of them.


I mean, if Im dating a girl I do like that she still has her ex on her FB neither on whatsapp`or anthing, in my opinion she should have cut all contact, but many girls nowadays keep their exes 'around'.

How would you tell the girl you're dating that she should remove all that stuff?
Would you tell her?
what would you do?


Thanks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

betheman

Banned
Joined
Nov 4, 2010
Messages
1,843
Reaction score
67
she needs them on there for lots of reasons, it makes her look desirable, in the same way guys like good looking women in their FB friends. better looking the better! also, if she has a break up, she is a click of the mouse away for a fcuck, unlike most men.
FB for women is like the body armour american fotballers wear, over the years this protection has grown and grown, FB is a big social protector of women, absolutely no sh1t will ever be spoken to a woman by another woman on FB, Its all about her ego, men are there to be shot at and anything goes, i.e woman: oooh look, my new shoes = 51 likes, 25 coments ...gorgeous babe, you soo deserve them!!!
man: worked 14 hours today, too tired for a beer.......no likes, 2 comments p ussy!... get a better job!

dont put GF's on FB
 
P

perseverance

Guest
It wouldn't bother me.

If she is going to sit on his wang behind your back, then she's going to do it regardless of whether or not they are friends on facebook.

I think social media and networking are abhorrent and I am delighted I have deleted my facebook account. Facebook is more hassle than it's worth.
 

SgtSplacker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 18, 2011
Messages
2,039
Reaction score
504
I wouldn't say a thing, what are you crazy? That gives you a license to do anything you want to do on fbook. At the first complaint from her I would throw that in her face before she even finishes the first sentence.

So yeah babe I noticed you having fun on FBook with that new g........ AHEM!!! is this the same person that has her ex on FBook? Do you have complaints? because I didn't! Fix your FBook and i'll fix mine!

I would walk away laughing too but whatever that's just me.
 

rhythmic

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 5, 2012
Messages
212
Reaction score
13
It's just a thing girls do. If it's a LTR situation and you like her a lot, just let it happen. If she's gonna fvck her ex, she's gonna fvck her ex - whether or not they're linked on Facebook. Some girls genuinely keep in touch with their exes as friends, and are either A. too blind to see that the ex only hangs around cuz he wants another swing, or B. they're part of a bigger social circle and things would get awkward if she disconnected from him.

But yeah, don't try to control that sort of thing IMO. Let it happen.

Edit: Like those guys said... Went for a sandwich mid-post!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Kidquick

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 18, 2004
Messages
101
Reaction score
3
Age
50
I agree, don't say anything. It will make you look like an insecure chump.
 

Buddha_Mind

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 4, 2009
Messages
981
Reaction score
43
Location
not here. in the real world.
I see this a lot I would say don't say anything and just "let it be" it is part of her past and unfortunately with social media we keep running image records of our lives...those photos where when they are together a lot of people just leave them until the emotional connections fade..they maybe remove them later...most especially if it was within a year (their breakup)...just let it be and I bet some of those photos might be removed with time by her, especially if you two keep growing...

I would say just don;t look at those photos to stir up jealousy and ****..just let it be...

If you see NEW photos thats another story!!
 

Buddha_Mind

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 4, 2009
Messages
981
Reaction score
43
Location
not here. in the real world.
PS -- sorry for double post -- I have male friends who have kept those photos and as they start seeing someone new they fade away and I think not everyone is able to just torch up their pics and memorabilia as a part of them may always care about that past person despite how the relationship ended. As long as she's not meeting biweekly for coffee with this guy I would say just let those trinkets and things be that just may be how she deals with things.
 

Down Low

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 21, 2012
Messages
1,049
Reaction score
62
Location
Maryland
I notice that most responders say ignore it cuz slores will be slores. Pretty much the same as saying that a woman who does this is sloring.

If you don't want a slore in your life, NEXT.
 

rhythmic

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 5, 2012
Messages
212
Reaction score
13
^ It's more like IF she's going to do that, she's gonna do that. If she isn't, she isn't - but having him as a facebook friend won't make a damn bit of difference.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Top