Walk this Way
Don Juan
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- Mar 2, 2004
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I have an unusual predicament. I dated this girl for some time. She lost interest in me and I dumped her before the relationship got worse. I don't know where exactly things began to go wrong. I figure her interest was low from the beginning. But she knew that when I dumped her, it was only as a defensive mode to avoid future pain for myself, and she knew that I still liked her a good deal. Which I did. Now I hate her.
I totally avoided her for some time. But now, unfortunately, we are taking some of the same classes and are forced to work together and see each frequently. It's been a nightmare for me.
She has a new boyfriend who she talks about ALL the time with me. I quickly change the subject, so I suppose she knows I don't like to talk about it. She'll talk about how they go to all the same places I took her. She glorifies everything he does. And she does it constantly. At the same time, she LOVES to put me down. She'll say that she's just joking, but it's ridiculous how often she'll actually disrespect and insult me. I'm not much of a talk-backer, so that adds to her glee. I don't wish to go down to her level because I respect myself. Furthermore, she would be indifferent to my comments anyway. She behaves very immature in this sense. She has never said anything positive about me, frequently ignores me. She claims she's my "best friend" but she's a terrible friend to me. I don't want her at all.
Never mind that it hurts me to see her with a new boyfriend. It also makes me quite angry to hear her annoying, immature BS directed towards me. I am sick and tired of it but I wish to approach this in an effective, mature manner. The difficulty is that I need to put up with her and maintain a decent level of interaction because she will unfortunately be a part of my life for some time. So I cannot blow her off, as much as I'd like to do so.
What is the best way to approach this? Please keep in mind I obviously don't want her as anything. I just want to keep our "relationship" on good terms while I have to. I simply don't want to deal with her malicious games.
I totally avoided her for some time. But now, unfortunately, we are taking some of the same classes and are forced to work together and see each frequently. It's been a nightmare for me.
She has a new boyfriend who she talks about ALL the time with me. I quickly change the subject, so I suppose she knows I don't like to talk about it. She'll talk about how they go to all the same places I took her. She glorifies everything he does. And she does it constantly. At the same time, she LOVES to put me down. She'll say that she's just joking, but it's ridiculous how often she'll actually disrespect and insult me. I'm not much of a talk-backer, so that adds to her glee. I don't wish to go down to her level because I respect myself. Furthermore, she would be indifferent to my comments anyway. She behaves very immature in this sense. She has never said anything positive about me, frequently ignores me. She claims she's my "best friend" but she's a terrible friend to me. I don't want her at all.
Never mind that it hurts me to see her with a new boyfriend. It also makes me quite angry to hear her annoying, immature BS directed towards me. I am sick and tired of it but I wish to approach this in an effective, mature manner. The difficulty is that I need to put up with her and maintain a decent level of interaction because she will unfortunately be a part of my life for some time. So I cannot blow her off, as much as I'd like to do so.
What is the best way to approach this? Please keep in mind I obviously don't want her as anything. I just want to keep our "relationship" on good terms while I have to. I simply don't want to deal with her malicious games.
