sterlingarcher
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Sorry ahead of time for the long post. Thanks in advance for those that read the whole thing.
Dated this girl for 7 years off and on. One of those things where no matter how many times we've broken up and seen other people we always end up talking again.
Anyway earlier in the year we were talking (not "officially together") and sleeping together, but she got weird and ended up wanting to spend time with this other guy she just met. I wasn't about to chase her so I just detached from the situation. She gave me the whole "I love you and I don't know what our future holds, but for right now we just need time apart" and I offered absolutely no resistance.
Fast forward to two months ago. She contacts me and wants to go get drinks to catch up. I say sure. We go out for drinks, end up going to a late movie as well, then end up back at my place and spend the majority of the night having sex numerous times. She explains that she's "officially" with the previously mentioned guy she stopped talking to me for, but she's bored to death with him. Says she's not that attracted to him (he's pretty bland in the looks department), is getting sick of him, and they have terrible sex on the rare occasion they do. During the course of the past few months they've been together they for some stupid reason bought a dog, and now she feels like she's stuck in this relationship with him, she says. I of course take all this with a grain of salt. I have no idea what she's exaggerating, making up, etc. Anyway she says she's going to end up breaking up with this guy eventually, and we agree to keep hanging out and sleeping with each other.
Fast forward to now. We've hung out numerous times since we started two months ago, been having amazing sex, and just having a lot of fun. All I've been hearing from her is how great I am, how much amazing history we have together, how when she imagines her future I'm the only guy she can picture, how much more attractive I am than anyone else she's ever met (I'm a model and do my best to take very good care of how I look, so I blow this other guy she's talking to out of the water in physical attractiveness), etc. All good things basically. Well last week she had finals for college, so she was pretty busy with studying/school work and had to cancel plans we had. She offered a reschedule for today. This morning I text her:
Me: What time you getting here later?
Her: I'm not sure yet, I kinda want to see how the evening plays out here.
Me: What does that mean
Her: Like see what everyone is doing. I also honestly just don't know if I feel like going out
Me: Up to you just let me know
Her: Ok I will
Now the circumstances at her house are hectic. She lives with family. Her dad, stepmom, two brothers, cousin and his wife, grandmother, and I assume her "boyfriend" is over semi-frequently. The house is enormous and basically there's always **** going on. It's just one of those busy households. None of them know she's talking to me again. So when she says "see what everyone is doing" I'm 95% sure she means see what's going on around the house, as she usually has to come up with an excuse to get out of the house so she can see me.
Anyway overall she's just seemed a little off the past week - week and a half. Just distant. Hard to pin down for plans. I did however receive a big text two nights ago about how amazing I am again, and how much better I am compared to every other guy she's talked to. But those are all just words. And now she seems to be flaking out again on plans for tonight.
I'd like to get back together with this girl because she's really the only person I've felt a connection with worth getting serious about. I'm not sure if she's just in a weird funk lately or what, but I don't want to blow the whole thing by handling this the wrong way. How would you guys suggest I proceed here?
PS. Before anyone says it; I am and have been spinning plenty of plates. I haven't been solely focused on this situation, but it's the only one I actually care about.
Dated this girl for 7 years off and on. One of those things where no matter how many times we've broken up and seen other people we always end up talking again.
Anyway earlier in the year we were talking (not "officially together") and sleeping together, but she got weird and ended up wanting to spend time with this other guy she just met. I wasn't about to chase her so I just detached from the situation. She gave me the whole "I love you and I don't know what our future holds, but for right now we just need time apart" and I offered absolutely no resistance.
Fast forward to two months ago. She contacts me and wants to go get drinks to catch up. I say sure. We go out for drinks, end up going to a late movie as well, then end up back at my place and spend the majority of the night having sex numerous times. She explains that she's "officially" with the previously mentioned guy she stopped talking to me for, but she's bored to death with him. Says she's not that attracted to him (he's pretty bland in the looks department), is getting sick of him, and they have terrible sex on the rare occasion they do. During the course of the past few months they've been together they for some stupid reason bought a dog, and now she feels like she's stuck in this relationship with him, she says. I of course take all this with a grain of salt. I have no idea what she's exaggerating, making up, etc. Anyway she says she's going to end up breaking up with this guy eventually, and we agree to keep hanging out and sleeping with each other.
Fast forward to now. We've hung out numerous times since we started two months ago, been having amazing sex, and just having a lot of fun. All I've been hearing from her is how great I am, how much amazing history we have together, how when she imagines her future I'm the only guy she can picture, how much more attractive I am than anyone else she's ever met (I'm a model and do my best to take very good care of how I look, so I blow this other guy she's talking to out of the water in physical attractiveness), etc. All good things basically. Well last week she had finals for college, so she was pretty busy with studying/school work and had to cancel plans we had. She offered a reschedule for today. This morning I text her:
Me: What time you getting here later?
Her: I'm not sure yet, I kinda want to see how the evening plays out here.
Me: What does that mean
Her: Like see what everyone is doing. I also honestly just don't know if I feel like going out
Me: Up to you just let me know
Her: Ok I will
Now the circumstances at her house are hectic. She lives with family. Her dad, stepmom, two brothers, cousin and his wife, grandmother, and I assume her "boyfriend" is over semi-frequently. The house is enormous and basically there's always **** going on. It's just one of those busy households. None of them know she's talking to me again. So when she says "see what everyone is doing" I'm 95% sure she means see what's going on around the house, as she usually has to come up with an excuse to get out of the house so she can see me.
Anyway overall she's just seemed a little off the past week - week and a half. Just distant. Hard to pin down for plans. I did however receive a big text two nights ago about how amazing I am again, and how much better I am compared to every other guy she's talked to. But those are all just words. And now she seems to be flaking out again on plans for tonight.
I'd like to get back together with this girl because she's really the only person I've felt a connection with worth getting serious about. I'm not sure if she's just in a weird funk lately or what, but I don't want to blow the whole thing by handling this the wrong way. How would you guys suggest I proceed here?
PS. Before anyone says it; I am and have been spinning plenty of plates. I haven't been solely focused on this situation, but it's the only one I actually care about.