"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Evolving as a DJ

Awkward

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Let me tell you a little about evolution. The key principle of evolution is "Survival of the fittest".

For example if a bird who live in the jungle suddenly have a offspring that is mutated so it has green feathers that melt in to the environment very well, it will have a much better chance of surving, than a bird with white colour for example.

The green bird is fitter to survive than the white bird. Human is a product of this evolution, we have evolved from small creatures to larger and more complex creatures. We survived and got superior because we were the most fit creature to survive.

Now to the real issue. DJing i a very similar thing. There are numerous techniques here that generally work very well and most often get you a good result. But because it works for someone else and his style it doesn't mean it will work for you.

You are a totally different person and you will have many different conditions that are unique to you. If a thing isn't working for you and it is working for someone else, don't spend time trying to get it work, try to evolve this technique or come up with a new one that does work.

Specialize your DJ-skills so it fit you. Try to experiment and come up with new stuff that work for you. Soon you will have that "gut" feeling that tells you if you are doing right or wrong. ALWAYS trust your gut. It is perfectly right to bend or even break the rules written on this site if you feel that they are not fitted for that moment you are experience.

You may find that your techniques may get very specialized and have high critera for their use, it is good, they are often more powerfull than the overall techniques. As human beings are more complex and useful than planktons.

The main thing is: You should NEVER tie yourself down to what others write or say what works. If it doesn't work for you then shove it out through the window, use your own material if it give you better results. Cause that is what you are interrested in; what you will get in the end. The way to the goal is irrelevant.

Try to evolve as a DJ.

- Awkward

"There is no way of becoming a DJ over a night, it takes practice, lot of practice, every thing needs a lot of time to work and to be learned. Take one step at the time, don't rush it, just have fun.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Consent

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I think one should personalize all tips instead of passively reading them. Because if you just read them, then you don't remember it. So if you like a certain sentence or paragraph, you should copy and paste it, or put it into your own words; then read it every now and then. It will help you focus.
 

Jariel

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Wise words! :up:

Soon you will have that "gut" feeling that tells you if you are doing right or wrong. ALWAYS trust your gut. It is perfectly right to bend or even break the rules written on this site if you feel that they are not fitted for that moment you are experience.
Absolutely true!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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