"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Evolving as a DJ

Awkward

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Let me tell you a little about evolution. The key principle of evolution is "Survival of the fittest".

For example if a bird who live in the jungle suddenly have a offspring that is mutated so it has green feathers that melt in to the environment very well, it will have a much better chance of surving, than a bird with white colour for example.

The green bird is fitter to survive than the white bird. Human is a product of this evolution, we have evolved from small creatures to larger and more complex creatures. We survived and got superior because we were the most fit creature to survive.

Now to the real issue. DJing i a very similar thing. There are numerous techniques here that generally work very well and most often get you a good result. But because it works for someone else and his style it doesn't mean it will work for you.

You are a totally different person and you will have many different conditions that are unique to you. If a thing isn't working for you and it is working for someone else, don't spend time trying to get it work, try to evolve this technique or come up with a new one that does work.

Specialize your DJ-skills so it fit you. Try to experiment and come up with new stuff that work for you. Soon you will have that "gut" feeling that tells you if you are doing right or wrong. ALWAYS trust your gut. It is perfectly right to bend or even break the rules written on this site if you feel that they are not fitted for that moment you are experience.

You may find that your techniques may get very specialized and have high critera for their use, it is good, they are often more powerfull than the overall techniques. As human beings are more complex and useful than planktons.

The main thing is: You should NEVER tie yourself down to what others write or say what works. If it doesn't work for you then shove it out through the window, use your own material if it give you better results. Cause that is what you are interrested in; what you will get in the end. The way to the goal is irrelevant.

Try to evolve as a DJ.

- Awkward

"There is no way of becoming a DJ over a night, it takes practice, lot of practice, every thing needs a lot of time to work and to be learned. Take one step at the time, don't rush it, just have fun.
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Consent

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I think one should personalize all tips instead of passively reading them. Because if you just read them, then you don't remember it. So if you like a certain sentence or paragraph, you should copy and paste it, or put it into your own words; then read it every now and then. It will help you focus.
 

Jariel

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Wise words! :up:

Soon you will have that "gut" feeling that tells you if you are doing right or wrong. ALWAYS trust your gut. It is perfectly right to bend or even break the rules written on this site if you feel that they are not fitted for that moment you are experience.
Absolutely true!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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