"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Evolutionary Proof of DJ Theory

SinJester

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Ok so I'm once again directing to an article: http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/mind/articles/emotions/lonelyhearts.shtml

Here's what I want to bring attention to:

Men's preferences Women's preferences
1. Attractiveness 1. Commitment
1. Commitment 2. Social Skills
3. Social Skills 3. Resources
4. Resources 4. Attractiveness
4. Sexiness 5. Sexiness
Notice that men value looks first while it is 4th for women behind commitment, social skills and resources? Just some ammo for those who believe that looks don't matter so much. Now I'm not suggesting that the women wont cheat on you if you have the first 3, or that it has anything to do with secual attraction. Simply, it holds true to the DJ belief that looks don't matter.

In fact going slightly of topic, I can see the evolutionary advantage of a woman snaring a man to look after her and stay with her and cheating on him to make higher quality offspring, that she can be sure will me looked after by her 'mate'.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Deacon

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This is good information, but it's kind of narrow. Random hook-ups are different than bf/gf relationships. You don't really respond to commitment from a possible random hook-up option, you look for attractiveness/sexiness/social skills. When it comes to bf/gf relationships, this is good information.
 

SinJester

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Random hook-ups are different than bf/gf relationships. You don't really respond to commitment from a possible random hook-up option, you look for attractiveness/sexiness/social skills.
I agree, before anyone else brings it up.
 
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