"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sbgm

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Hello!
In my every-day life, my social skills goes up and down. It's crazy! One day I am happy and have all the girls surrounding me, and the next day, I am shy, and talking with girls seems hard. The next day it seems very easy to talk and I am not shy. What is this cycle? Is there a way to get out of it, to be happy and social every day? I don't know what in my mind that blocks me form being happy and social like the other guys, like every day..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Themanthatcan

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I have the exact same problem.My advice:Smile.It's supposed to send some chemical to your brain to make you feel better.Not to mention chicks dig it.
 

Buick

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I got the same problem. 2 weeks ago, you could've swonrn i was the hottest guy ins chool, i had so many chicks talking to me & stuff. I was getting crazy kino with this one girl,and I really got in with this hb9 in my gym class.
But then last week, i was a sucky loser again. That sucked. I hated it. I figure maybe I was just lazy becauseit was a 3 day week with thanksgiving and all.
But this week I'm doing real well again, so my advice is to just ride it out and know that it will be better soon!
 

sbgm

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Yeah, it really sucks. But what is it that causes us to be the hottest guy in school, and the next week we are losers? We try to approach and talk with girls, but it doesn't feels that great that it did the last day, and the humour isn't on top exactly, your self esteem is low...

You can't be on top, happy, every day, but what does the other guys that the girls is talking to have that we don't? It's weird, it can't be something we are born with, it must be a mindset... Someone with more help for us?

Edit: It goes like this: The mondays, I am shy... the shyness going down as closer to friday we get, and I am the hottest guy in the class on fridays. Then I go home from school, use the weekend to study alone and long for the monday to come. n monday, I am completely shy... anyone recognizing this?
 

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At least you're not doing as I do:

Monday - Walk with eyes to the ground, porn
Tuesday - Avoid eye contact with strangers, porn
Wednesday - After school, cry from anger and frustration, porn
Thursday - Cry more, porn
Friday - Listen to Linkin Park*, cut self with razor blade*, porn

* - Not true
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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GaryUranga

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I think its about YOUR attitude and mindset, I get this too, try to spot whatever it is that youre doing differently in both days, thats what Im doing just keep practising and I guess things will fall into place
 
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