"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Everything is based off of looks

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Not to beat a dead horse about looks, but I just wanted to (hopefully) add something. Your overall appearance will effect not only how others view you on looks only, but also everything you do. What I'm talking about here is the halo effect. If you're good looking then people will perceive you as more intelligent and more capable than someone who isn't as attractive. This also means that if you're more attractive people will perceive your personality as being higher regardless of your actual conversational skills.

Take two guys you meet, and pretend they have the exact same personality and facial expressions. Now one is a good looking guy, the other is just average. I guarantee that everyone here would view the better looking guy as more likable than the average joe.

A common myth I've heard is that game is all that matters, and while that's true to an extent, being attractive is a huge bonus. I'm not just talking about the looks alone, but the halo effect that being attractive provides. I've seen lots of guys with fairly mundane personalities get a lot of attention from guys and girls simply, in my view, because they are good looking. People want to be around others who are attractive, they are perceived to have higher social value. I can't stress enough the importance of looks in our society, and it stretches much further than simply a woman being attracted to you or not. It effects everyone perception of you, regardless of your overall personality and the gender of the person judging you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah, but "good-looking" only means that you look like a good person. Like a moral person, the kind who is honest and fun to be around, moral, has something to offer, and takes care of your body. Facial expressions and microexpressions have a huge impact on your looks. Think of David Duchovny in Californication; he's sorta neutral, and would DEFINITELY be ugly if he had a ****ty personality, but since he has a fun and loving personality, he is considered good-looking. As long as you're healthy enough to procreate and live a normal life, don't worry about your looks; worry about your personality and whether you're really worth being around. (This isn't saying to be more ****y and funny. I'm saying be honest and communicative.)
 
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OP is gay for juice monkeys.
 
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green69 said:
Not to beat a dead horse about looks, but I just wanted to (hopefully) add something. Your overall appearance will effect not only how others view you on looks only, but also everything you do. What I'm talking about here is the halo effect. If you're good looking then people will perceive you as more intelligent and more capable than someone who isn't as attractive. This also means that if you're more attractive people will perceive your personality as being higher regardless of your actual conversational skills.

Take two guys you meet, and pretend they have the exact same personality and facial expressions. Now one is a good looking guy, the other is just average. I guarantee that everyone here would view the better looking guy as more likable than the average joe.

A common myth I've heard is that game is all that matters, and while that's true to an extent, being attractive is a huge bonus. I'm not just talking about the looks alone, but the halo effect that being attractive provides. I've seen lots of guys with fairly mundane personalities get a lot of attention from guys and girls simply, in my view, because they are good looking. People want to be around others who are attractive, they are perceived to have higher social value. I can't stress enough the importance of looks in our society, and it stretches much further than simply a woman being attracted to you or not. It effects everyone perception of you, regardless of your overall personality and the gender of the person judging you.
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lets all state the obvious!
actually i saw/read once that this was scientifically tested to be true

isko said:
As long as you're healthy enough to procreate and live a normal life, don't worry about your looks; worry about your personality and whether you're really worth being around.
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you should try and be the best -looking that you can. cant do much bout face, but you can about - style: clothes, hair cut, going to a gym improves you as well.. (more muslce, more testosterone and more confidence)
 
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you should try and be the best -looking that you can. cant do much bout face, but you can about - style: clothes, hair cut, going to a gym improves you as well.. (more muslce, more testosterone and more confidence)
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Agreed
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Isko said:
Agreed
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On a side note... Would an average person be able to get away with more ****iness (****y and funny) and confidence than a guy who is an 8+? Seems like when a guy is an 8+ and he is ****y and confident, he's an arrogant jerk. Anyone else notice this?
 
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