"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Everything In Moderation!!!

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Yes!!!

I think I've stumbled onto a great truth here.

One of the keys to have great success with women (or indeed life in general), is... do everything in moderation!!

What I mean by this is not over-doing something, but not under-doing it either. This is the best method to deploy in practically any situation.

For example, David D (and many others) always emphasize the importance of C&F, neg-hits etc. While these techniques may indeed work well, the secret to really using them effectively is, you guessed it, in moderation!!

If you are too ****y all the time, the girl will generally think you are an a$$hole and grow to dislike you. But at the same time if you are not trying to be C&F enough, it won't be effective at all.

Another example. Say you start seeing a girl... if you see her too often, she will get tired of you, take you for granted and possibly dump you. However if you see her too less she will probably lose interest (or assume you have lost interest) and the relationship will die.

So the key is to get a healthy balance. The possible examples of this being effective are practically endless.

Basically if you wanna improve your success rate in anything, especially the techniques on here, just remember that one line...repeat it like a mantra in your head over and over again:

Everything in moderation.

Do this, and you can't go far wrong. ;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Moderation or balance?
 

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Um, is it not the same thing?!? A healthy balance, ie in moderation.
 

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I also believe in this and have been using this in my life slightly recently. I always pondered about using equilibrium with relationships, but this post gives some good points as this will work well in dating as well.

Nice post man
 

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Originally posted by Triple X
Um, is it not the same thing?!? A healthy balance, ie in moderation.
Not at all. Moderation is a limiting measurement, one that is less than others at that. So, are you going to be a DJ (in moderation)? Will you be successful in your career (but just in moderation). Will you have a good relationship with your girlfriend (but just in moderation)?

Now consider, being the BEST DJ that you could ever be, WITHOUT any limits WHILE doing your best in your career AND being the best guy that your girl could ever dream of; ALL AT THE SAME TIME without limits? Doing all equally well, one not superseding the other, without any moderation.

Get the difference? Some guys can choose to do things in just moderation but guys like me who does things to his best ability will surpass those that accept moderation.

Here's a vivid example, Lance Armstrong does not ride a bike in moderation. Where would he be if he did?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yes, but I'm talking about when it comes to gaming women, particularly when your first taking a girl out. OK so I said it's effective in practically any situation, but I didn't mean not to do your best to succeed at anything. You're misunderstanding what I am saying.

What I mean is when you are in situations where you are perhaps not too experienced and a little unsure of what best to do (esp. with women), the best thing to do is not too much, not too little.

OK so maybe it won't be as effective in every area of life, but it sure helps a lot when it comes to attracting (and preferably keeping) women. And that's what we're on this site to learn about, right?!?
 
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