I spent years cold-approaching. It really helped me get out of my shell and meet new people. It helped me never be bored or lonely. I got some results from it but overall I think the main thing was it just kept me busy and feeling alive. Fast forward to now. The way I really got woman and business interested in me is I developed specific skills. Just hammered on public speaking. I found my passion in public speaking. I found different ways to donate to vets and be of service. I found out specific ways to be happy and fulfilled. I volenteer, I donate money, I read, and stay active. I put woman on the back burner. Now all the sudden I am getting random facebook messages. I have woman who wouldn't give me the time of day 2 years ago sending messages like "Hey haven't talked to you for awhile wanna get coffee?" This is a strange world for sure. You really have to be calm and keep working on yourself but girls eventually do come around.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Everyone knows this but I will tell the story again.
- Thread starter Demonpenz
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
..looking down over a heard of dairy cows. The young one looks up at the elder and says: "Hey! Let's run down there and **** one of them dairy cows!"
The old bull pauses and replies with a smile: "How about we walk down, and **** them all."
This really applies to business as well. You run out and invest and don't cultivate patience you are going to have a hard time with money. You take your time and cultivate your patience you are going to build wealth.
The old bull pauses and replies with a smile: "How about we walk down, and **** them all."
This really applies to business as well. You run out and invest and don't cultivate patience you are going to have a hard time with money. You take your time and cultivate your patience you are going to build wealth.
Sho-No-Luv
Senior Don Juan
Right, right great post, its all in the frame and where you put your energy at. Energy directed at others(women) in an effort to impress, entertain or gain approval, often times comes off as trying to hard and this energy disapates easily and is disappointing when there is no self actualization involved.
Energy put into one self, passions, hobbies, intrests, goals and dreams is self fuffilling and replenishing. Women arent stupid (ok that's debatable)
but they sense this and it turns them on!
Energy put into one self, passions, hobbies, intrests, goals and dreams is self fuffilling and replenishing. Women arent stupid (ok that's debatable)
but they sense this and it turns them on!Awesome post. This is the lifestyle we men should be having. Focusing on our goals and aims while making women a side mission. Never make women the centre of your universe. I see that happening with so many of my guy friends and it's bad. I do admit that I fell into a phase where i craved female validation but no longer.
It's all about emotional control and knowing what's is really important for your personal growth.
All the best, OP
It's all about emotional control and knowing what's is really important for your personal growth.
All the best, OP
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.