I spent years cold-approaching. It really helped me get out of my shell and meet new people. It helped me never be bored or lonely. I got some results from it but overall I think the main thing was it just kept me busy and feeling alive. Fast forward to now. The way I really got woman and business interested in me is I developed specific skills. Just hammered on public speaking. I found my passion in public speaking. I found different ways to donate to vets and be of service. I found out specific ways to be happy and fulfilled. I volenteer, I donate money, I read, and stay active. I put woman on the back burner. Now all the sudden I am getting random facebook messages. I have woman who wouldn't give me the time of day 2 years ago sending messages like "Hey haven't talked to you for awhile wanna get coffee?" This is a strange world for sure. You really have to be calm and keep working on yourself but girls eventually do come around.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Everyone knows this but I will tell the story again.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
..looking down over a heard of dairy cows. The young one looks up at the elder and says: "Hey! Let's run down there and **** one of them dairy cows!"
The old bull pauses and replies with a smile: "How about we walk down, and **** them all."
This really applies to business as well. You run out and invest and don't cultivate patience you are going to have a hard time with money. You take your time and cultivate your patience you are going to build wealth.
The old bull pauses and replies with a smile: "How about we walk down, and **** them all."
This really applies to business as well. You run out and invest and don't cultivate patience you are going to have a hard time with money. You take your time and cultivate your patience you are going to build wealth.
Sho-No-Luv
Senior Don Juan
Right, right great post, its all in the frame and where you put your energy at. Energy directed at others(women) in an effort to impress, entertain or gain approval, often times comes off as trying to hard and this energy disapates easily and is disappointing when there is no self actualization involved.
Energy put into one self, passions, hobbies, intrests, goals and dreams is self fuffilling and replenishing. Women arent stupid (ok that's debatable)
but they sense this and it turns them on!
Energy put into one self, passions, hobbies, intrests, goals and dreams is self fuffilling and replenishing. Women arent stupid (ok that's debatable)
but they sense this and it turns them on!Awesome post. This is the lifestyle we men should be having. Focusing on our goals and aims while making women a side mission. Never make women the centre of your universe. I see that happening with so many of my guy friends and it's bad. I do admit that I fell into a phase where i craved female validation but no longer.
It's all about emotional control and knowing what's is really important for your personal growth.
All the best, OP
It's all about emotional control and knowing what's is really important for your personal growth.
All the best, OP
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.