"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i think one of the things that makes getting older harder is that life becomes routine.

what i mean by that is that you know that nothing is really going to happen that surprises you totally.

i mean, even when the world trade centers went down, it was shocking in terms of lives lost, but it wasn't surprising as in 'wow, i never in a million years thought that would happen.'

i can't think of anything that would truly 'shake my world'.

maybe aliens appearing, or Jesus coming back or maybe an asteroid hitting us (but to be honest, i wouldn't be totally shocked by an astroid).

i think perhaps this is the biggest problem about getting old - life becomes like the movie ground hog day. and while you're not living out the same day over and over - each day is technically different - it has the same 'common' events to it.

anyway, just a thought.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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These are our best days!

When we've trampled over the ignorance of youth. When we can stand proud and remember our accomplishments. When we can begin to put the pieces of our own jigsaw into place.

We have the gift of reflection and the strength of our character to build our own future.

This is the greatest time.
 

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Aliens appearing, and not just in trailer parks, would be Earth-shattering. Probably the one thing I'm most terrified of lol.

Quite frankly, I need less surprises in my life. At times I envy the security of routine, Joekerr.
 

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wjh said:
Aliens appearing, and not just in trailer parks, would be Earth-shattering.
With the advancement of the G.E.T.S and WPS systems I think the US Governement is preparing to advise us all of the existence of Extraterrestrial beings.

And this will happen within our lifetime.
 

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joekerr31 said:
i can't think of anything that would truly 'shake my world'.
I can................. How about a near death experience? It shook my world and totally changed almost everything I feel and believe. It got me out of a rut emotionally, physically and spiritually and is like a new beginning outside of the Matrix. I'm now on the outside looking in and have no desire for things that don't mean anything or don't help advance my journey. In many ways it was very liberating.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You should give us a full run down of your NDE in the Anything Else section romangod.

Also if you like to read check out Howard Storm's book on his NDE called "My Descent Into Death".

Pretty fascinating reads this NDE stuff is.

Could merely be dying brain hallucinations or evidence of an after life.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
With the advancement of the G.E.T.S and WPS systems I think the US Governement is preparing to advise us all of the existence of Extraterrestrial beings.

And this will happen within our lifetime.
I could care less unless they fall out of the sky over Miami when I am there on vacation. I just wanna go fishing with no ET dramas. Is that too much for this Aussie boy to ask ?
 

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I think this form of thinking comes from not mentally challenging yourself. You let your mind devolve into a rut, this is your responsiblity. The cost of emotional freedom is internal vigillence. Every day you have to remind yourself of your goals and how each thing you do is moving towards them. You have to look back on the day and reflect on what you accomplished and plan for whats ahead. You have to find time in the day to enjoy exactly what is going on in the moment. I usually take a smoke break in the afternoon and go watch the sunset. It's a great way to reflect and live in the moment after a long day of working.
 

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wjh said:
Aliens appearing, and not just in trailer parks, would be Earth-shattering. Probably the one thing I'm most terrified of lol.

Quite frankly, I need less surprises in my life. At times I envy the security of routine, Joekerr.
haha, maybe this is my problem. i wnt something earth shattering to happen. i don't care how shocking it is.

aliens, jesus, someone develops super powers, etc.

just give me something that makes me wake up in the morning and think 'i wonder what might be goign on in the world today?'

im not depressed or anything, just bored by lifes routine.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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KarmaSutra said:
With the advancement of the G.E.T.S and WPS systems I think the US Governement is preparing to advise us all of the existence of Extraterrestrial beings.

And this will happen within our lifetime.

i hope you are right. that would be very cool! watch it turns out that all women are actually aliens and have been keeping it a secret from us.
 

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joekerr31 said:
haha, maybe this is my problem. i wnt something earth shattering to happen. i don't care how shocking it is.

aliens, jesus, someone develops super powers, etc.

just give me something that makes me wake up in the morning and think 'i wonder what might be goign on in the world today?'

im not depressed or anything, just bored by lifes routine.
Have some kids.
 

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Warrior74 said:
I think this form of thinking comes from not mentally challenging yourself. You let your mind devolve into a rut, this is your responsiblity. The cost of emotional freedom is internal vigillence. Every day you have to remind yourself of your goals and how each thing you do is moving towards them. You have to look back on the day and reflect on what you accomplished and plan for whats ahead. You have to find time in the day to enjoy exactly what is going on in the moment. I usually take a smoke break in the afternoon and go watch the sunset. It's a great way to reflect and live in the moment after a long day of working.
actually im crazy busy lately. lots of conventionally 'milestone' things happening.

but the more these things happen, the more i realize 'ahhhh i've experienced this feeling before.'

i just wish something DRAMATIC would happen. and i mean REALLY dramatic. not a terrorist attack or something - but aliens, or some crazy DNA discover that lets us reverse aging, etc.
 

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guru1000 said:
Have some kids.
ya, i should. its been a lot time since i've woken up as the result of being punched in the balls.

;)
 

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heres all that i know is for certain:
1. you cant take it with you when you go
2. none of us leave this place alive!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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joekerr31 said:
actually im crazy busy lately. lots of conventionally 'milestone' things happening.

but the more these things happen, the more i realize 'ahhhh i've experienced this feeling before.'

i just wish something DRAMATIC would happen. and i mean REALLY dramatic. not a terrorist attack or something - but aliens, or some crazy DNA discover that lets us reverse aging, etc.
I hear yah. But the world is still an amazing place! I hope to travel soon and see more of it. Who knows man. 2012 is coming soon. the overlords may reveal the aliens finally, or the world may end, or jesus may come back. We'll see what all the fuss about 2012 is about.
 

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You really should consider traveling.

Nothing has given me a fresher perspective or sense of wonder than stepping onto new soil and facing the unknown. It awakens your senses!

The cultures you encounter give you a whole new perspective on life. Hearing other languages provokes new interpretations of meaning, it is a whole other world!

IMHO, you haven't really lived until you've traveled far enough to taste something different. In this age of easy and cheap transportation, there is no reason why any of us should be bored.
 

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Do you mean thrill seeking? I'm sure there are many activities on the planet that could fulfill the thirst for high excitement.

Another source of new experiences is your own fantasies (not just sexual). Make them real, although you may get more excitement from the planning and anticipation than you will from the act itself.

I've found that broadening one's social circle is great for introducing new excitement. Go turn over some rocks.
 

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Write a book Joekerr. You have excellent insight, and a strong writing style.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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