There is this 19 year old girl (I'm 23) that I had been dating for like four months. She was interested in me and had actually broke up with her boyfriend because she was starting to become attracted to me long before I ever felt anything for her.
As time went by I became very busy with school. I started to like the feeling of having her around, but I was never really sure about how I felt about her. Sometimes I would like her a lot, other times it was easy to just study for days at a time alone. She also kept changing her mind about me. She was unsure if she wanted a relationship with me because she was still going through some mental things with her ex. She had really strong feelings for him and it was her first relationship.
After awhile, all I would talk about with her was our relationship and nothing else. I was so busy with school and needed some certainty because I was starting to get a strong feeling that I was going to fail a class.
For this reason I was starting to get stressed out all the time and was probably less fun to be around. It seemed to me that she was starting to lose interest because it was becoming easier for her to not drop by my room anymore. Despite telling me how wonderful I was, how I was such a great guy and how much she liked me.
And then dead week she didnt drop by at all. This was really worrying me because I knew that my vibes from her were coming true. I went to her room and talked to her about it. Completely broke off everything and told her it wasnt a good idea if it continued. We decided that we were going to just be friends.
Following this I didnt see her for about 2.5 weeks. Then we started hanging out a lot as friends. She called me like every day and always had me hang out with her and her friend. We still seem to be able to click very well. Just as well as before.
Now, no matter how much I try, no matter how much I lie to myself and to other people I like her still and have more fun with her now because school is out and there are no worries. I want to be her friend, but I feel that Im more certain that I want a relationship than I did before. I wasn't sure before if I wanted her, but now I know I do and I can't really imagine being attracted to anybody else more than her.
Im thinking that if I still think about her in a month that I do now, I will read her the poetry that she has inspired me to write. Because I feel that if I still think about her that way than I will never change and that I would rather have nothing than to not have her as a girlfriend.
Do you guys have any advice on what I should do? Is there anyway that she could still have feelings for me, but just needed some space from a relationship? She dated her ex for like 6 months and then she had a rebound with this guy for a couple weeks. I waited like two weeks and she has told me on multiple occasions that she truely did like me. Or do you guys know how I could increase her interest level again?
As time went by I became very busy with school. I started to like the feeling of having her around, but I was never really sure about how I felt about her. Sometimes I would like her a lot, other times it was easy to just study for days at a time alone. She also kept changing her mind about me. She was unsure if she wanted a relationship with me because she was still going through some mental things with her ex. She had really strong feelings for him and it was her first relationship.
After awhile, all I would talk about with her was our relationship and nothing else. I was so busy with school and needed some certainty because I was starting to get a strong feeling that I was going to fail a class.
For this reason I was starting to get stressed out all the time and was probably less fun to be around. It seemed to me that she was starting to lose interest because it was becoming easier for her to not drop by my room anymore. Despite telling me how wonderful I was, how I was such a great guy and how much she liked me.
And then dead week she didnt drop by at all. This was really worrying me because I knew that my vibes from her were coming true. I went to her room and talked to her about it. Completely broke off everything and told her it wasnt a good idea if it continued. We decided that we were going to just be friends.
Following this I didnt see her for about 2.5 weeks. Then we started hanging out a lot as friends. She called me like every day and always had me hang out with her and her friend. We still seem to be able to click very well. Just as well as before.
Now, no matter how much I try, no matter how much I lie to myself and to other people I like her still and have more fun with her now because school is out and there are no worries. I want to be her friend, but I feel that Im more certain that I want a relationship than I did before. I wasn't sure before if I wanted her, but now I know I do and I can't really imagine being attracted to anybody else more than her.
Im thinking that if I still think about her in a month that I do now, I will read her the poetry that she has inspired me to write. Because I feel that if I still think about her that way than I will never change and that I would rather have nothing than to not have her as a girlfriend.
Do you guys have any advice on what I should do? Is there anyway that she could still have feelings for me, but just needed some space from a relationship? She dated her ex for like 6 months and then she had a rebound with this guy for a couple weeks. I waited like two weeks and she has told me on multiple occasions that she truely did like me. Or do you guys know how I could increase her interest level again?