"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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teddy

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I'm obviously not a complete DJ yet, just learning the ropes and trying to apply them.

But as I swallow TRP, become more aware, and get better, it still frustrates me sometimes that I learned this stuff so soon after that bad experience, now she's gone forever with her last impression of me as an AFC one. And I won't be able to show her my changed self.

I suppose spinning more plates would fix this though.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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NOPE.. because once you reach complete DJ status you stop caring what women think.

Past regrets over a woman you "lost" means you still pedestalize her in your mind and still believe she is a "big deal".

Your perspective should be that SHE lost you. On top of that.. she lost you at a time when you had more to offer her (as betas pander and serve women more than DJ's). As a DJ you would probably pump and dump the same woman if you met her today for the first time. HER LOSS not yours. :up:
 

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PlayHer Man said:
NOPE.. because once you reach complete DJ status you stop caring what women think.

Past regrets over a woman you "lost" means you still pedestalize her in your mind and still believe she is a "big deal".

Your perspective should be that SHE lost you. On top of that.. she lost you at a time when you had more to offer her (as betas pander and serve women more than DJ's). As a DJ you would probably pump and dump the same woman if you met her today for the first time. HER LOSS not yours. :up:
What an awesome perspective.
 

TheGambino

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Yes tbh, I couldve fvcked those girls so easy, I see all the points where I messed up, yet again I learned a lot coz I know the mistakes Ive made.

The point where you should get is exactley what PHM says above, work hard play hard.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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PlayHer Man said:
NOPE.. because once you reach complete DJ status you stop caring what women think.

Past regrets over a woman you "lost" means you still pedestalize her in your mind and still believe she is a "big deal".

Your perspective should be that SHE lost you. On top of that.. she lost you at a time when you had more to offer her (as betas pander and serve women more than DJ's). As a DJ you would probably pump and dump the same woman if you met her today for the first time. HER LOSS not yours. :up:
blunt, brutal and awesome.
 

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Nope, about six months later I went back and tried them out on her.

Had her naked inside half an hour and wanting to go out with me again. Good fun! :up:
 

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I'm gonna have to agree with PHM on this one. If you pedestalize that much you're not a DJ yet. I don't regret losing out on women bc the women we fantasize about tend to be crazy and will ruin your life if given the opportunity.

I think my problem is that I still feel like I need a gf to be happy. If I can kill this mentality, I'll be a lot better off. Whenever you start thinking about how your life sucks cause you're single, you give women all the power. I might have missed out on relationships, but my life and career are in order and no one can take that away from me.
 

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Never say never, you just don't know when your paths will cross again. Plus, just like PHM said, who cares what they think. When you eliminate your care of what any girl thinks, then you'll truly sleep better at night and wake up with a clear conscience.
 

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Get your ass on the cover of Forbes magazine. That will show her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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