"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ever regret not being able to use your new DJ skills on the HB who drove you here

teddy

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I'm obviously not a complete DJ yet, just learning the ropes and trying to apply them.

But as I swallow TRP, become more aware, and get better, it still frustrates me sometimes that I learned this stuff so soon after that bad experience, now she's gone forever with her last impression of me as an AFC one. And I won't be able to show her my changed self.

I suppose spinning more plates would fix this though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PlayHer Man

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NOPE.. because once you reach complete DJ status you stop caring what women think.

Past regrets over a woman you "lost" means you still pedestalize her in your mind and still believe she is a "big deal".

Your perspective should be that SHE lost you. On top of that.. she lost you at a time when you had more to offer her (as betas pander and serve women more than DJ's). As a DJ you would probably pump and dump the same woman if you met her today for the first time. HER LOSS not yours. :up:
 

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PlayHer Man said:
NOPE.. because once you reach complete DJ status you stop caring what women think.

Past regrets over a woman you "lost" means you still pedestalize her in your mind and still believe she is a "big deal".

Your perspective should be that SHE lost you. On top of that.. she lost you at a time when you had more to offer her (as betas pander and serve women more than DJ's). As a DJ you would probably pump and dump the same woman if you met her today for the first time. HER LOSS not yours. :up:
What an awesome perspective.
 

TheGambino

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Yes tbh, I couldve fvcked those girls so easy, I see all the points where I messed up, yet again I learned a lot coz I know the mistakes Ive made.

The point where you should get is exactley what PHM says above, work hard play hard.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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PlayHer Man said:
NOPE.. because once you reach complete DJ status you stop caring what women think.

Past regrets over a woman you "lost" means you still pedestalize her in your mind and still believe she is a "big deal".

Your perspective should be that SHE lost you. On top of that.. she lost you at a time when you had more to offer her (as betas pander and serve women more than DJ's). As a DJ you would probably pump and dump the same woman if you met her today for the first time. HER LOSS not yours. :up:
blunt, brutal and awesome.
 

Cremasta

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Nope, about six months later I went back and tried them out on her.

Had her naked inside half an hour and wanting to go out with me again. Good fun! :up:
 

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I'm gonna have to agree with PHM on this one. If you pedestalize that much you're not a DJ yet. I don't regret losing out on women bc the women we fantasize about tend to be crazy and will ruin your life if given the opportunity.

I think my problem is that I still feel like I need a gf to be happy. If I can kill this mentality, I'll be a lot better off. Whenever you start thinking about how your life sucks cause you're single, you give women all the power. I might have missed out on relationships, but my life and career are in order and no one can take that away from me.
 

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Never say never, you just don't know when your paths will cross again. Plus, just like PHM said, who cares what they think. When you eliminate your care of what any girl thinks, then you'll truly sleep better at night and wake up with a clear conscience.
 

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Get your ass on the cover of Forbes magazine. That will show her.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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