"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ever get to the point where you feel like you can't or don't care? I got this great girl, one that exceeds all my wants/desires for quality in a women. I've known her for 4 years been together the past 5 months, and I just feel like I am not into her. Or other girls really for that matter.

I'm still interested in women, I just feel like I've cut off my emotions. I think I've read about other DJ's goin through this once they reach a certain level.

How do you get past this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Choosy DJs choose premium women but you sound confused. You say you have a great woman but you're not into her; so why not let her go?
 
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Because she is basically everything that I look for in a women. She has the intelellect, morals, value, and a stunning body. She turns me on, I'm basically happy, I guess I'm just confused because I don't have that I'm AFC madly in love with her feeling.

I almost feel like the typical Good Will Hunting guy who was hurt as a kid so he takes the Freudian defence by not allowing others to get close to him. Except I haven't had trust issues as a kid, and have had healthy loving relationships in the past with women.

In my case, I think that I built her up so much before we were together, that when we were together, she totally fell for me because of all the DJ skills that I've acquired over the years, but deep down I guess I was scared that she would see the bad side of me and dump me, so I did the Freudian thing, and prevented myself from allowing my feelings to naturally do whatever they wanted.
 
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don't let go of her, but try setting new goals in other areas of your life.
 
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