"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ever intentionally friendzone yourself?

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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As in a girl will say/do something to test you, and you respond by friend zoning yourself on purpose? An example would be a girl a was talking to, I wasn't really crazy about her, she's like a 6, and we'll go talk about various things. One time she told me how her siblings were teasing her about how much she was texting me and she told them how she doesn't 'like me'. I say "awww, but I thought we were just friends" and her face gets all red and she starts stammering something lol. I guess it's more so me friendzoning her rather than me friendzoning myself I guess, but she seemed to almost have an increased interest in me after that. Like reversing the roles or something. You guys ever done the same thing or anything similar?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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With my last girlfriend, the moment I knew it was over in my gut, I said LJBF. Within a week she told me she was in love with someone else (who she met after I said LJBF). I have to wonder if she was returning the favor, or whether I accurately predicted things. In any event, I walked away. I was her lover only. Never her friend. 2199/2200th's of the time we were together (99.95%) was as lovers.
 

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As in a girl will say/do something to test you, and you respond by friend zoning yourself on purpose? An example would be a girl a was talking to, I wasn't really crazy about her, she's like a 6, and we'll go talk about various things. One time she told me how her siblings were teasing her about how much she was texting me and she told them how she doesn't 'like me'. I say "awww, but I thought we were just friends" and her face gets all red and she starts stammering something lol. I guess it's more so me friendzoning her rather than me friendzoning myself I guess, but she seemed to almost have an increased interest in me after that. Like reversing the roles or something. You guys ever done the same thing or anything similar?
She finds it a blow to her ego that you're not interested in her so her interest in you has piqued.
 

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With my last girlfriend, the moment I knew it was over in my gut, I said LJBF. Within a week she told me she was in love with someone else (who she met after I said LJBF). I have to wonder if she was returning the favor, or whether I accurately predicted things. In any event, I walked away. I was her lover only. Never her friend. 2199/2200th's of the time we were together (99.95%) was as lovers.
So in your case it almost seemed to have done the opposite, but simply because you two may have already been lovers before?
 

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So in your case it almost seemed to have done the opposite, but simply because you two may have already been lovers before?
She was having an affair with me and had just initiated a divorce with her husband (who she lived with since age 14). At age 21, having just reconnected with her dad who booted her at 14 and her friends from high school (which booted her at 14), she couldn't tell everyone she had been dating a 46 year old man for nearly a year, so I had to let her go. I don't think it backfired as much as was spot-on. She later wrote "Thank you for being so understanding. I'm so happy you've been a part of my life and I want to make it up to you in any way I can". After what she had already done, that was quite an offer. I told her to call me in a year and tell me she misses me and she went back to gushing. I'll either A) Never see her again (I'm ok with that) or B) Have the best makeup sex ever with a more mature woman who knows I will give her total freedom, and who is no longer married.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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