"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Ever have those days... (loneliness)

F

Funlol

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 23, 2010
Messages
29
Reaction score
1
I seem to go into bouts of depression/loneliness/lack of confidence as soon as I get rejected a few times in a row.

Example - Last week was good. Felt like I was on the top of the world. ****ed a new girl, got some numbers, almost ****ed two other girls, had some good dates... but then this week rolls around and it seems nothing goes my way...

One girl I met at a club that I thought I definitely was going to **** for sure didn't answer my call or text... is basically ignoring me. Another girl who I almost ****ed on day 1 seemed to be less interested on day 2 (and as a result didn't **** her). And then to cap it off, a girl I had an amazing day 1 with yesterday did not answer my call today.

So.. this all caused me to be really depressed today. I wish my confidence didn't all come from how girls treat me, but it does. My loneliness was at it's peak this afternoon so I called up about 5 girls and basically begged them to hang out with me (including a very ugly one... far below my standards)... all were 'busy'. This caused my mood to get even worse.

Does anyone else get like this from time to time? How do you combat it? Usually I'm OK, but every now and then **** like this happens to me. I've found that reading helps... exercising helps a little bit (but only temporary)... tanning/sunlight helps (but I dont like to harm my skin)... and going out with friends helps (but I'm self employed, and my friends arent, so sometimes this isnt an option).
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

M

morepoonplease

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 29, 2010
Messages
114
Reaction score
1
the fact that a girl doesnt answer a text or a call after she gave up her number has become laughable to me... shake it off, go out and look for more #'s.
 
S

Serg897

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 19, 2001
Messages
1,194
Reaction score
20
Age
39
Location
North America
I can connect with this. It happens sometimes. When things go your way you feel great - when things are ****ty your mood drops.

You have to remember that its all transient, the good times and the bad - they all pass. Emotions come and go like this. Someone once told me - dont identify with the waves, but be the ocean underneath the ways.

You have to remember that women arent everything. Ideally we should get to a point where women are not the determining factor that make us happy or sad. Have other things going for you in your life and other goals to shoot for, that can occupy some of your time and affect your mood. Being independent and happy with yourself is key - because true happiness comes from within.

Hope that helps.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top