Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Should i get myself tested asap?What if she gave me this then what??Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Did you use a condom with this woman?catman said:Not sure what type cause she wont tell me either? I dont think shes bsing me either? What are your thoughts on this i already told her that it wasnt rite not to tell me this right from the start of us dateing??
I got a bad bad feeling???Scary stuff, Jophil.jophil28 said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Scary stuff, Jophil.jophil28 said:
Thanx jophil glad to know im not the only one whos been left in the dark by a psyco woman.My faith and trust in women was just starting to come back after a bitter divorce a few years ago too??? Ya this has really opened my eyes to womens way of thinking. I wouldnt dream of intentionaly infecting someone much less not tell them what it was i gave them.You guys are awsome for telling such personal stuff and shareing what you learned.Im hopeing for the best and dont see myself getting much sleep tonight. Ill keep you guys posted on what i find out.jophil28 said:
I wont be seeing this one again eitherMr.Positive said:Scary stuff, Jophil.
I had your run of the mill depression gal expose me to chlymdia once, years ago. She did the right thing though, and told me as soon as she found out. I then got tested, and was cleared. I guess she was cheating on me too?
I stopped seeing her at that point in time.
well mabye in court??Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Scaramouche, is this something recent? for post-exposure? If so, fantastic, and I very much hope the OP reads your advise.Scaramouche said:
Yes it is indeed a sad thing that a person must know what all the different letters associated with this disease mean as well.The doctor didnt mention any shots but i will certainly look into getting some as i certainly dont want to go through this again!! Sure is a set back towards restoring my faith and trust in women and could have been prevented with continued use of a condom Thanks again for all the replies and support!!!!!!!!!!!!!!You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.