has anyone ever been nexted by a girl because of their height? now i'm not talking about you being 5'6 and her being 6'1, i can kind of understand that. but if she's 5'10 and you're 5'9, why is that such a big deal? someone care to explain this whole phenomenon to me about why women are so hung up when it comes to being an inch or two taller then a guy? it's almost as if they'd prefer to date a tall ugly dude compared to a dude who was good looking but an inch shorter then them. sounds kind of shallow to me. are their ways to combat this?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ever had a girl not want to be with you ONLY because of height?
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
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teacha
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why do you care man, on to the next one.
Exactly, My female friend whos over 6' generally only dates guys taller than her, BUT she recently had a fling with a guy whos only about 5'8" at most. It was his personality.Ice882 said:
height may be an issue but if you've got game its not critical. Like having a buff body, helps a lot but lack of one doesnt have to hurt your game.
Cure.
I have just seen a girl I have known for a long time get with a guy who is an inch shorter than her. maybe because she was wearing heels in the pic.
anyway she has always been my perfect 10 type of girl, and she is with a guy her same height.
another guy friend of mine has a girlfriend who is very very attractive, and she is definitely 2 inches taller than him.
yes. It was an excuse, at the end of the day, if your frame was stronger than hers she would be attracted to you, they are attracted to the inner strength in men, the outside appearance is just physical B.S, with time it all fades away and you even become shorter as you age.
what they want is a real man to take care of stuff.... and make them feel like women. Im going on a tangent now.
nuff said
anyway she has always been my perfect 10 type of girl, and she is with a guy her same height.
another guy friend of mine has a girlfriend who is very very attractive, and she is definitely 2 inches taller than him.
yes. It was an excuse, at the end of the day, if your frame was stronger than hers she would be attracted to you, they are attracted to the inner strength in men, the outside appearance is just physical B.S, with time it all fades away and you even become shorter as you age.
what they want is a real man to take care of stuff.... and make them feel like women. Im going on a tangent now.
nuff said
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Yes, but I still nailed her and never planned to date her so the joke's on her. 
Cure, nailing a girl v.s actually dating her are quite different things.
It's much easier to nail a chick if you have sharp Game & good logistics, but when it comes to actual dating, you have a host of other issues to deal with. Height is cited here, but it's actually a social issue & not a physical one. For her to date you, she has to imagine you two together in front of her friends (which you need to make them jealous of her), her family and in public. She may fvck you (provided that nobody knows about it), but if you're not good arm candy material or elevate her social status, forget about actual dating.
Cure, nailing a girl v.s actually dating her are quite different things.
It's much easier to nail a chick if you have sharp Game & good logistics, but when it comes to actual dating, you have a host of other issues to deal with. Height is cited here, but it's actually a social issue & not a physical one. For her to date you, she has to imagine you two together in front of her friends (which you need to make them jealous of her), her family and in public. She may fvck you (provided that nobody knows about it), but if you're not good arm candy material or elevate her social status, forget about actual dating.
falconslax89
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never been a problem for me but im pushing 6'3".
i, however, tend to have a problem with tall girls. i really dont get down with girls over maybe 5'10" and would NEVER date a girl taller then me. bang? perhaps..but not date.
my favorite height for a girl has to be around 5'2" or 3"....for some reason i like to tower over girls.
i, however, tend to have a problem with tall girls. i really dont get down with girls over maybe 5'10" and would NEVER date a girl taller then me. bang? perhaps..but not date.
my favorite height for a girl has to be around 5'2" or 3"....for some reason i like to tower over girls.
Height is a bigger issue than looks. It is all about a female wanting a man. In every society that I know of being a man is associated with power. Power comes in different ways. Money, status, and height all are clear indicators of power. Not saying this is the way it should be, but it is reality.
Sorry, but girls don't look at men like gay boys look at men. An ugly guy who is tall is much better off than a pretty boy who is short. Girls want security. Height, money, and status are always linked with security.
Sorry, but girls don't look at men like gay boys look at men. An ugly guy who is tall is much better off than a pretty boy who is short. Girls want security. Height, money, and status are always linked with security.
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I am proud to make my 1000th post here!BigJimbo said:
I agree with this totally.
But if you get nexted because of height, so what if that's the real excuse or not? Stop worrying and move the hell on to another chick!
If you can, combat this by getting more status, looks, and money. Your height will surely be overlooked then. But if not, just let it go, her loss, and move on, she just wasn't that into you.
Women can be very shallow and superficial, even the fatties and uglies are doing it! Sad but true. Some people say that if you got a nice car, you'll have a better chance of getting girls. True, especially in the club scene.
There are other ways to be a desirable male. You gotta use what works for you. Witticisms help if you get ribbed because of your height or something else.
Good luck OP.
Case closed.
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If your game is shaky, then you're right, she probably won't date you. However, someone with good game will be charming enough to supercede all of that (i.e. will be able to charm friends, family, etc. creating social proof instantly everywhere). The only difference between fücking someone once and dating them is your ability to be consistent in what you are doing.Jitterbug said:Yes, but I still nailed her and never planned to date her so the joke's on her.
Cure, nailing a girl v.s actually dating her are quite different things.
It's much easier to nail a chick if you have sharp Game & good logistics, but when it comes to actual dating, you have a host of other issues to deal with. Height is cited here, but it's actually a social issue & not a physical one. For her to date you, she has to imagine you two together in front of her friends (which you need to make them jealous of her), her family and in public. She may fvck you (provided that nobody knows about it), but if you're not good arm candy material or elevate her social status, forget about actual dating.
All you have to do to make a woman like you is make her feel good. That's it. If you can make her feel good consistently, she'll rationalize all kinds of reasons to be with you even if you're short, fat, bald, and broke. Women make decisions based on their emotions, remember guys?
I see a lot of the posters in this thread putting an unnecessary amount of emphasis on external factors. Charisma is the ultimate trump card. It surpasses looks, height, money, and all other things. Step outside of the Matrix and stop wasting your time with all that external crap. That's the woman's job to worry if she's tall enough, skinny enough, etc. Our job is to create the frame we want and pull people into it. No excuses.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Generally chicks want to be with guys who are taller. They will make exceptions if the guy is very good looking, is of high status or has killer game. Tom Cruise is generously listed at 5'7 and he was married to Nicole Kidman (5'11) and is now married to Katie Holmes (5'9).
Chicks are less averse to hooking up with shorter guys, but they might have issues with a long term relationship. It looks odd (according to society's standards) when a girl is taller than the guy. And if she's with a shorter guy, she'll absolutely tower over him if she's wearing heels.
Chicks are less averse to hooking up with shorter guys, but they might have issues with a long term relationship. It looks odd (according to society's standards) when a girl is taller than the guy. And if she's with a shorter guy, she'll absolutely tower over him if she's wearing heels.