has anyone ever been nexted by a girl because of their height? now i'm not talking about you being 5'6 and her being 6'1, i can kind of understand that. but if she's 5'10 and you're 5'9, why is that such a big deal? someone care to explain this whole phenomenon to me about why women are so hung up when it comes to being an inch or two taller then a guy? it's almost as if they'd prefer to date a tall ugly dude compared to a dude who was good looking but an inch shorter then them. sounds kind of shallow to me. are their ways to combat this?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ever had a girl not want to be with you ONLY because of height?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
teacha
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why do you care man, on to the next one.
Exactly, My female friend whos over 6' generally only dates guys taller than her, BUT she recently had a fling with a guy whos only about 5'8" at most. It was his personality.Ice882 said:
height may be an issue but if you've got game its not critical. Like having a buff body, helps a lot but lack of one doesnt have to hurt your game.
Cure.
I have just seen a girl I have known for a long time get with a guy who is an inch shorter than her. maybe because she was wearing heels in the pic.
anyway she has always been my perfect 10 type of girl, and she is with a guy her same height.
another guy friend of mine has a girlfriend who is very very attractive, and she is definitely 2 inches taller than him.
yes. It was an excuse, at the end of the day, if your frame was stronger than hers she would be attracted to you, they are attracted to the inner strength in men, the outside appearance is just physical B.S, with time it all fades away and you even become shorter as you age.
what they want is a real man to take care of stuff.... and make them feel like women. Im going on a tangent now.
nuff said
anyway she has always been my perfect 10 type of girl, and she is with a guy her same height.
another guy friend of mine has a girlfriend who is very very attractive, and she is definitely 2 inches taller than him.
yes. It was an excuse, at the end of the day, if your frame was stronger than hers she would be attracted to you, they are attracted to the inner strength in men, the outside appearance is just physical B.S, with time it all fades away and you even become shorter as you age.
what they want is a real man to take care of stuff.... and make them feel like women. Im going on a tangent now.
nuff said
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yes, but I still nailed her and never planned to date her so the joke's on her. 
Cure, nailing a girl v.s actually dating her are quite different things.
It's much easier to nail a chick if you have sharp Game & good logistics, but when it comes to actual dating, you have a host of other issues to deal with. Height is cited here, but it's actually a social issue & not a physical one. For her to date you, she has to imagine you two together in front of her friends (which you need to make them jealous of her), her family and in public. She may fvck you (provided that nobody knows about it), but if you're not good arm candy material or elevate her social status, forget about actual dating.
Cure, nailing a girl v.s actually dating her are quite different things.
It's much easier to nail a chick if you have sharp Game & good logistics, but when it comes to actual dating, you have a host of other issues to deal with. Height is cited here, but it's actually a social issue & not a physical one. For her to date you, she has to imagine you two together in front of her friends (which you need to make them jealous of her), her family and in public. She may fvck you (provided that nobody knows about it), but if you're not good arm candy material or elevate her social status, forget about actual dating.
falconslax89
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never been a problem for me but im pushing 6'3".
i, however, tend to have a problem with tall girls. i really dont get down with girls over maybe 5'10" and would NEVER date a girl taller then me. bang? perhaps..but not date.
my favorite height for a girl has to be around 5'2" or 3"....for some reason i like to tower over girls.
i, however, tend to have a problem with tall girls. i really dont get down with girls over maybe 5'10" and would NEVER date a girl taller then me. bang? perhaps..but not date.
my favorite height for a girl has to be around 5'2" or 3"....for some reason i like to tower over girls.
Height is a bigger issue than looks. It is all about a female wanting a man. In every society that I know of being a man is associated with power. Power comes in different ways. Money, status, and height all are clear indicators of power. Not saying this is the way it should be, but it is reality.
Sorry, but girls don't look at men like gay boys look at men. An ugly guy who is tall is much better off than a pretty boy who is short. Girls want security. Height, money, and status are always linked with security.
Sorry, but girls don't look at men like gay boys look at men. An ugly guy who is tall is much better off than a pretty boy who is short. Girls want security. Height, money, and status are always linked with security.
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I am proud to make my 1000th post here!BigJimbo said:
I agree with this totally.
But if you get nexted because of height, so what if that's the real excuse or not? Stop worrying and move the hell on to another chick!
If you can, combat this by getting more status, looks, and money. Your height will surely be overlooked then. But if not, just let it go, her loss, and move on, she just wasn't that into you.
Women can be very shallow and superficial, even the fatties and uglies are doing it! Sad but true. Some people say that if you got a nice car, you'll have a better chance of getting girls. True, especially in the club scene.
There are other ways to be a desirable male. You gotta use what works for you. Witticisms help if you get ribbed because of your height or something else.
Good luck OP.
Case closed.
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If your game is shaky, then you're right, she probably won't date you. However, someone with good game will be charming enough to supercede all of that (i.e. will be able to charm friends, family, etc. creating social proof instantly everywhere). The only difference between fücking someone once and dating them is your ability to be consistent in what you are doing.Jitterbug said:Yes, but I still nailed her and never planned to date her so the joke's on her.
Cure, nailing a girl v.s actually dating her are quite different things.
It's much easier to nail a chick if you have sharp Game & good logistics, but when it comes to actual dating, you have a host of other issues to deal with. Height is cited here, but it's actually a social issue & not a physical one. For her to date you, she has to imagine you two together in front of her friends (which you need to make them jealous of her), her family and in public. She may fvck you (provided that nobody knows about it), but if you're not good arm candy material or elevate her social status, forget about actual dating.
All you have to do to make a woman like you is make her feel good. That's it. If you can make her feel good consistently, she'll rationalize all kinds of reasons to be with you even if you're short, fat, bald, and broke. Women make decisions based on their emotions, remember guys?
I see a lot of the posters in this thread putting an unnecessary amount of emphasis on external factors. Charisma is the ultimate trump card. It surpasses looks, height, money, and all other things. Step outside of the Matrix and stop wasting your time with all that external crap. That's the woman's job to worry if she's tall enough, skinny enough, etc. Our job is to create the frame we want and pull people into it. No excuses.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Generally chicks want to be with guys who are taller. They will make exceptions if the guy is very good looking, is of high status or has killer game. Tom Cruise is generously listed at 5'7 and he was married to Nicole Kidman (5'11) and is now married to Katie Holmes (5'9).
Chicks are less averse to hooking up with shorter guys, but they might have issues with a long term relationship. It looks odd (according to society's standards) when a girl is taller than the guy. And if she's with a shorter guy, she'll absolutely tower over him if she's wearing heels.
Chicks are less averse to hooking up with shorter guys, but they might have issues with a long term relationship. It looks odd (according to society's standards) when a girl is taller than the guy. And if she's with a shorter guy, she'll absolutely tower over him if she's wearing heels.