"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ever gone AFC when encountering a decent target?

Flabbergasped?

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Let me elaborate.

I'm no AFC. I might not be the most ultra-DJ around, but I've gone past the phase of acting like a whipped b!tch. However, for the past few weeks or so, I've been going soft over this girl, who's a grade under me. She's the President of the Student Council, top 10% of her class, etc., and easily an HB 8.

I have a leg up on the competition, since I'm taking her to prom, but lately, I've been turning AFC. Calling semi-incessantly, being scared of escalating kino, etc. It sort of scares me, but I guess that's what I get for hanging around idiotic girls that are bound to fail. When a quality person comes around, I get weak in the knees.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Fitch

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Hey, don't kill yourself over it. It happens to everyone. Believe it or not, but girls find it cute--to a point. Don't overdo it.

Just remember, she's going to the prom with you. This HB is with YOU, no one else. So relax, the hardest part is done. Clearly she likes you, so there is no need to be insecure. Life is too short to worry, and wonder what if.

Oh, and a common misconception is AFCing is bad. To be the DJ, you need to be a little AFC. Nothing in extreme doses, my friend. An important life lesson. Stay away from the extremes--never overdo!
 

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Fitch said:
Oh, and a common misconception is AFCing is bad. To be the DJ, you need to be a little AFC. Nothing in extreme doses, my friend. An important life lesson. Stay away from the extremes--never overdo!
That's something I'm still working on... lol

But don't worry so much if you go a little AFC. I mean, it would be a little weird if you didn't, to tell the truth. I'm sure even the best have their AFC moments.
 
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