"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ever get tired of plates?

Groverz

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Had one girl over Tuesday and one Wednesday and honestly it left me a bit sad. It was their ideas to come over and netflix and chill but I have no emotional connection to them and the random hookups just make me miss an actual connection even more. Anyone else feel like this? Maybe it's my age but I am over the random hookups, sometimes it's fun just for a confidence boost or a challenge.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Misrah

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If its not fun, stop doing it. Drop all your plates. Start fresh, and only approach / attempt to date women who are stirring your emotions. If you are not feeling it after the first date, next them. Your rates will go down (as you focus on quality) but if it is important to you - go for it.
 

mrgoodstuff

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I don't personally understand why a one-night stand has to be regarded as shallow and lacking quality and emotion. The best ones I've had were one-and-dones.

Beware the dogma of societal mores.
He said it's more fun for him if there is a emotional connection. Not just boning a warm body... If that's how he feels he may have past thru the phase and wants something more fulfilling for HIM.
 

parkthebus

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Perhaps it's time to look for a relationship that can offer you a different dynamic. Whatever makes you feel good.
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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You need to find happiness in yourself man. I know exactly what you go through because I struggle with the same exact thing. I guess thats the reason I get into a lot of relationships. Learn to make your self happy and just use girls for sex until you find that one that is "perfect" by your own criteria.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Berom

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You need to find happiness in yourself man.
This. Also, it seems like maybe those two women aren't quality women. I mean quality in regards to what you want in a woman.
 

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Ever get tired of plates?
Yes, all of the time lol. We are going through a unique time in my opinion, because as I have pointed out the vast majority of women are only good for Sex and Companionship benefits. The issue occurs when you just don't "feel like" hanging around women (thus the companionship benefit offers aren't intriguing anymore) and you are tired of fvcking them for right now, so what's left? You will realize that very little is left.

Don't get me wrong, some girls can provide good conversation, debate, and might even help you out here or there, or teach you a couple of things. But for the life of me, these chicks are extremely rare unicorns in this market.
 
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