"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ever get scared off by a chick who comes on too strong?

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So I was on a first date tonight and this girl was pretty hot, but she at one point said "I just got divorced and all I want is sex." Then she said "you can take me home right now if you want to". Something didn't seem right. I said "well I'd like to get to know you better" and she said "Please, please, PLEASE take me home right now! You don't have to call me tomorrow, you don't have to email, you don't even have to send me a text message!".

I left tracks.

Now I know how women feel when a guy starts humping their leg after 5 minutes. They say we can't value that which comes too easily.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Unless that girl was diseased, fat, or ugly as sin, you are nuts my good sir. I would LOVE if a woman said that to me.
 

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I wouldn't say "scared off", but more of "weirded out" kind of way. The problem lies in this desperation that they vibe off, and I think healthy individuals are just uncomfortable when they acts this way. (Usually the unattractive males)
 

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This girl was about a 7, and came from a rich family. My last girlfriend was an 8 and came from a poor family, but she made me wait 8 weeks to have sex, and I still think about her every day after months.
 

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I know EXACTLY how you feel! I've had a bunch of girls like this and it just turns me off! If it's too easy, I don't want it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yes.

Met a hot girl (as in actually hot), she liked me for some reason, not that I did anything really, she just took a liking to me. I kept touching her ass, well we parted ways but I asked for her contact details etc. I spoke to her later and she said she wants to go out with me. I say yes. Arrange to meet up with her again at the place where I first met her... Go there, she's REALLY into me, it turned me RIGHT off. I broke it off with her. When I break it off she goes back to how she was before so I kick myself hard and ask her out again. Same exact thing happens, she actually kicked me in the balls and left (no joke).
 

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Plenty of times. Especially if the girl is 7 or above. It makes me very suspicious. If a girl does most of the work & asks most of the questions I'll take it but if 2 seconds into meeting me she's already trying to feel on me I think something is HORRIBLY wrong.
 

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It is called a 'red flag.' That feelings you felt, being creeped out, is your gut telling you something is whacked. You were good to run. You likely saved yourself a lot of problems.

If the behavior isn't normal, there's a reason for that. BPD/HPD who knows. But crazy nonetheless.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I had a girl basically rape me once she wanted it so bad. Does that count? But I have to say I wasn't scared, just confused about what was going on and if she was serious.
 
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