"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ever get a girl pissed for not number closing?

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sharpshooter

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Like say you're at a far away town, or for some reason just didn't number close but end up just saying laaaaater after getting her name, info, and even some kinoing. I've had this happen a couple of times where I just walk off, sorta look back..and the girl has an angry p'od face haha.

Also, is it alright to feel guilty in this type of situation? Sometimes the girl is attractive and i'm hitting it off with her, but for whatever reason I didn't number close. It's like i'm killing my own desire. I'm not afraid to get the number, it's not a challenge for me at all..it's no big deal. But sometimse it's like I just don't have the desire to get it and I feel guilty about it later on. Is that normal?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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FM 3321

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It usually happens when a guy is afraid, gay or wusses out.


When I didn't ask for a number it was because I was afraid and wussed out. No futher explanation.
 
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Nah not closing a number isn't that big of a deal at all. Some times I'm saying in my head "this girl is way cute...but I'm NEVER going to call her" so I won't ask. Why, you may ask? Becasue I don't have time to chase every girl I meet.

I use to spread myself way way too thin and let me tell you, that's definately a bad thing. If you don't set aside some spare time for yourself girls will drive you absolutly nuts and you'll end up not wanting to do anything with any of them after a while... I can testify to this.

So don't worry about not closing a few numbers, think of it as your minds version of natural selection.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yeah I had a gf at the time and was just passing some time and I was talking to this girl (she wasn't all that attractive). Anyways, I said I had to go and her friend came up to me and started to interrogate and telling me it was a no no for me not to get her number.
 
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Originally posted by PRMoon
Nah not closing a number isn't that big of a deal at all. Some times I'm saying in my head "this girl is way cute...but I'm NEVER going to call her" so I won't ask. Why, you may ask? Becasue I don't have time to chase every girl I meet.

I use to spread myself way way too thin and let me tell you, that's definately a bad thing. If you don't set aside some spare time for yourself girls will drive you absolutly nuts and you'll end up not wanting to do anything with any of them after a while... I can testify to this.

So don't worry about not closing a few numbers, think of it as your minds version of natural selection.
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I have the same problem but I looked at it positively. It made me more of a man and sort of got me fit to be able to deal with women. When they demand more, be a man and step it up to be able to handle the drain and strain they put on you.
You will be a better person in the end.
 
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I meet around 1 or 2 girls every weak. I only ask for their if I'm going to call. No need to ask every girl for her number. Whats the point if you have no real interest?

Nowadays asking for a number means nothing.
 
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Originally posted by PRMoon
I use to spread myself way way too thin and let me tell you, that's definately a bad thing. If you don't set aside some spare time for yourself girls will drive you absolutly nuts and you'll end up not wanting to do anything with any of them after a while... I can testify to this.
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I am just getting out of this mode. There are only so many days in the week and every chick wants to be a twice a week girl. The practical limit to dating multiple women is about 3-4 and that can be too much if your own life gets too busy. Anymore and eventually you lose time for yourself which is where I'm at right now. Its tough to turn away opportunities that you would have died for only a few months ago, but you need to screen them out or you'll go nuts.

Unless a girl proves herself to be worthier than ones I already have, I bag getting the number. Its a waste of time and I love to see their expression when they know I decide not to number close them. Like a child, they want something bad that they can't have. Poor baby.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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At this point, I'm getting too lazy to do phone game. I'm experimenting with just giving the girl my number and not bother with calling her up. I'm getting all the numbers I want, but I'm also finding that I'm too lazy/tired to work on calling up Day2s.

Unless I'm super, super, SUPER interested then I'll exchange numbers. Otherwise, she can give me a call or not and I'll keep on gaming.
 
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