could be in school, class, gym, work but somewhere youve seen this girl many times and she obviously has noticed you many times, yet of a period of time youve just procrastinated and you have eventaully started to move your thought process thinking that she probobly wouldnt consider me now since ive taken so long to come talk to her? are the any legit excuses besides being with someone?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ever feel like youve waited to long and its now to late to bother talking to her
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
RedScorpion
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Well, I would say there's only really one way to find out. I say if you see an opportunity to casually talk to her, take it and see if she responds.
Generally you need to approach quickly, as it is typically Alpha, but there's always hope as long as you still have her attention and show confidence when you do it.
What the fvck are you waiting for? Grow some balls and go talk to her.
What the fvck are you waiting for? Grow some balls and go talk to her.
ken chang
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Yup. At a bus everyday before I go to work. I tried to chat her up one time by asking her a question, but the stupid conductor butted in and answered the question before she could. We still see each other from time to time on the bus but I figure too much time has already passed to pursue it any further. If she decides to talk to me though then it would be OK.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
NobodyCares1
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yeah... happened to me... I just usually let it go... when the opportunity comes then I'll talk to her but I guess a normal approach would seem weird...