Ever dated a narcissist?

[Lutz]

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[wifehunter]

We all have the narcissistic tendencies... some of use worse than others... But, I guess the people with NPD are unaware or are hiding behind a mask. It stems from pride, selfishness, and vanity. YES, they are a royal pain in the a55... my Mom is one.

...non-empathetic B1tch-Hags! They create problems and like to make bad situations worse.

 

[SadoMasochrist]

Some tells

• Put down other people
• Inability to see they are wrong in a situation and are able to self justify it
• Tell someone they should conform to their view or desires, even when someone presents evidence of why they would want to do something different.

You'll notice a significant number of women conform to this, and a lot of annoying faux-alpha types. A good example of a tell out in the wild from a woman might be this.

DJ "I'm a programmer for a F500"
HB "I wish you were something else"

Subtle, but this is someone who is looking for people to mirror their exact idea or what a person should be to be welcomed into their twisted kingdom. Normal people see a person as an individual, and that a job might make up a part of who they are and their assessment of who you are is very multifaceted. NPDs are not able to see people in this way, simply as either conforming to or not of narc supply. Either you are exactly what they want, or garbage. As a 2nd prize, if you provide them with the mirroring they need, by talking them up and validating them, you can qualify as orbiter status.

This should be a SIGNIFICANT red flag. Her talk of wanting you to be something else or discussing molding you in her image is basically her crying out to you that she feels love in an unhealthy way, she has attachment issues and has extreme needs for validation. Even the idea of someone living their life in a different way is a threat to her ego. She literally can't rationalize being attracted to a programmer, so instead, she attempts to get you to capitulate to her to feed her ego.

The upside here, is that when you refuse to validate her or mirror her, you're worth to her is literally 0.0. She'll go away quickly and quietly.

 

[The Duke]

I dated one that showed signs. She was an HB9, very attractive girl, former model. I still think about her. Hottest girl I was ever with.

-She could never relate to what I was feeling or thought.
-Always thought everybody should just give her what she wanted because she was so beautiful and charming!
-She would constantly prompt her kids to say "Momma Rocks!" It was a way to boost her ego. She would also tell me all the time that she "rocked". Her email was "[email protected]".
-She told me one time I wasn't religious enough for her......this girl was by no way religious other than she had a bunch of crosses hanging on the walls.
-She was highly vain and preoccupied with beauty. Fake hair, fake nails, fake boobs. She worked out all the time, ate perfectly, had a beautiful toned body.
-Always wanted to be told how great she was.
-She has her college diploma and several awards hanging on the wall in her bedroom. It struck me as odd. I think its her way of reminding herself every night before she goes to bed that she earned all that.
-She had a bad relationship with her mother. I would guess it had to do with all the cahk her mom ran thru and Katie felt left out/ignored which created attachment issues.

Her charm and beauty was just a facade for what was broken inside. Reminds me a lot of Donald Trump, only with looks and charm. This girl craved that new relationship high and was rarely satisfied. I hate to know how many guys she has ran thru.

She is now on her 6th husband and just turned 40. Her mother was married 6 times as well. She is raising a super cute little girl that will for sure carry on the family tradition.

In almost all of these people that have mental issues, you can trace the start of it back to childhood and coming from a broken home/divorced parents/etc.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I dated one that showed signs. She was an HB9, very attractive girl, former model. I still think about her. Hottest girl I was ever with.

-She could never relate to what I was feeling or thought.
-Always thought everybody should just give her what she wanted because she was so beautiful and charming!
-She would constantly prompt her kids to say "Momma Rocks!" It was a way to boost her ego. She would also tell me all the time that she "rocked". Her email was "[email protected]".
-She told me one time I wasn't religious enough for her......this girl was by no way religious other than she had a bunch of crosses hanging on the walls.
-She was highly vain and preoccupied with beauty. Fake hair, fake nails, fake boobs. She worked out all the time, ate perfectly, had a beautiful toned body.
-Always wanted to be told how great she was.
-She has her college diploma and several awards hanging on the wall in her bedroom. It struck me as odd. I think its her way of reminding herself every night before she goes to bed that she earned all that.
-She had a bad relationship with her mother. I would guess it had to do with all the **** her mom ran thru and Katie felt left out/ignored which created attachment issues.

Her charm and beauty was just a facade for what was broken inside. Reminds me a lot of Donald Trump, only with looks and charm. This girl craved that new relationship high and was rarely satisfied. I hate to know how many guys she has ran thru.

She is now on her 6th husband and just turned 40. Her mother was married 6 times as well. She is raising a super cute little girl that will for sure carry on the family tradition.

In almost all of these people that have mental issues, you can trace the start of it back to childhood and coming from a broken home/divorced parents/etc.

She obviously has pain or a hole in her she's trying to fill. Narcisism grows when it is unchecked. I was one for several years as I was near the top of my craft at that time. I was more selfish, focused on self, could justify anything ( entitlement ), felt like a god... I lost my wife that supported it, and realized that was the strongest part of my support structure, as the leeches ate away the rest of the foundation.

Narcicism can suck very badly. Each of your ex wives pieces of attention, affirmations, etc made her worse and worse and worse. The only thing that can fix them is pain and loss, and many will still make a choice to be narcissist.

 

[Silko]

been there, done that. I can write a book on this.

quite simple (well I discovered 4y too late ^^) to discover if you're with one
- sexual aggressive (you WILL cvm)
- you walk on egg shells
- she lies that obvious you can't believe
- she is shining a lot ... where you have also a big shadow
- very social, very friendly (but too, it's an ultimate instrument)
- being her god / turning you down
- using sex as an instrument
- turning warm/cold like 1-2-3 (very freaky to see this)
- cheating on you (you only discover afterwards through common friends)
- becomes suddenly aggressive when she loses control on you
- stalking you (took a flight to join a party she wasn't invited ... to retake the relationship)
- when she breaks up, she cracks you down as hard as possible: bad sex for example

Advice: RUN as far AND as fast you can. Cause she will hunt you if u stay too close. She will re-hunt you if she hasn't another victim.

Hottest girl I ever was with, but woow, most rotten inside.

My revanche she asked for:
- heal yourself (it takes long if you stayed in 4 years) and turn her down with a big smile on every contact attempt (she did 4 times, 1 per year)
- I adopted her friends ... (lifetime revanche)

RUN

 

[Dingo]

Try being married to one.....

As someone said.... they are beautiful on the outside but rotten to the core.

 

[wifehunter]

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Try being married to one.....

As someone said.... they are beautiful on the outside but rotten to the core.

Wolves in sheep's clothing.

You can forget about any peace/tranquility and joy. And Love... it's only erotic self centered love.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Yes.