"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Evaluation: First night with ex gf since break up, did good?

SemperFi719

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Hey DJ's, tonight was a solid night for me.
Me and my ex broke up about two weeks ago. We had seen eachother only three times after and its been for a few mins. at max. We havent talked on the phone,IMed or E-mailed either one since the break up. Tonight there was a dance at school for a club we're part of, and I knew that tonight I would have to look my best so that i could get that "revenge on the ex". I went to Geoffry Bean and bought a new pair of pants and a spiffy belt. Then went to Haggar and bought a new dress shirt. Even got my haircut, had to look good. (Before I go on know that we had agreed to be friends still. We were friends for 2 yrs before the relationship.) Anyway, so I get there and get settled. Needless to say felt great! Had new digs, smelled great, and I was gonna gets me some revenge to let her know that I have moved on.
She gets there and I hit her with a neg-hit about the chinese outfit she has on, she says "shut up!" and hits me. Give her kiss on cheek. I'll admit that I went in for a hug and I wish I wouldn't of. The AFC alarm in my head went off and I was MUCH cautious after that. The only table left in the room was her's, so me and my friend (who was sort of my wingman since HIS ex was there that had just broken up with him 3 days ago, and he needed support as did I). So we sit there and I knew I had to take advantage, guys I was cracking jokes left and right. Had them all laughing at the table (even my ex). I made sure that she saw me mingling with a lot of the girls there. I sensed that she might have been kinda jealous that these girls were giving me attention. She was glancing a lot at me.
Anyway so the night went on and the music began. As soon as the music started a girl went to my table and literally dragged me on the dance floor. HA! My ex saw it too so that was sweet. I proceeded to dance the night away. (TIP: Guys, if you don't know how to dance LEARN! A guy that knows how to dance and does it with confidence can get a positive response from ANY woman on the dancefloor.) I was dancing with a lot of girls, but I didnt at any point dance with my ex. She just saw me dance the night away with a grin on my face ear to ear. She was leaving early and I just gave her a kiss (no hug this time from me).
Its ashame she left early because as soon as she left they played raggae and I had 2 girls around my arms dancing with me. GAWD I wish she could have seen that. Overall I think its safe to say that my friend (wingman if you want to call him that) helped me get through the night with him being there and me being there for him. Dance the night away and even a lil revenge of some sort. Heh, tis good my friends, tis good.
So guys, what say you? Good "revenge on the ex?"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ib wouldn't exactly call it revenge! Why do you wamt revenge? Are you bitter?
 

Nightspark

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i've read a lot on about getting revenge on the EX and what not... the best revenge is just to live out your life to the fullest and that's it...

it's been posted that little saying around this board quite a lot... seems like everyone wants revenge on the EX.. just leave it be
 

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Me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago too, so i surelly understand your point. Yf you wanna read my story the topic is: http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=46163

At first i wanted to make her jealous, and i kinda still want, but specially yesterday, that i went for a date with a girl so diferent, way way way crazyer than my ex, and i had more fun than i ever had with her. That makes me thing, why the **** do i care about what she thinks?? She doesnt ****ing exist anymore, i dont give a **** about her, im gona enjoy so much having gorgeous girls around me and having fun seducing them and banging. Relax and always trance.
 

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Yeah PRLover, heh, I guess it really wasn't revenge. I guess I was just following protocol and acting upbeat around the ex. Cant let em see you down or anything right? I guess it was really just a "you missed the boat" kinda message. I remember at one point in the evening I was going to the beverage table and asked the ladies if they wanted drinks. The others said they did, then I asked my ex if she wanted one. I understood "no". I then went to the beverage table and came back. Brought a black girl a hawaiian punch and made a joke out of it for hells sake, killed! My ex then looks at me and says "why didnt you bring me a sprite?" I said "You didnt ask." She then tells me "You liar, oh well ill go." She then gets up and looks at me sorta as if she is expecting me to get up and go with her. The old AFC me would have gone up and tagged along, but I knew that if i did it would seem that I was dying to be around her. So I just sat there and looked at her with a grimmace on my face. Guess it wasnt revenge but showing her the new me that she is missing out on. Couldn't have been without SoSuave.com though. ;)
EDIT: Don't let your imaginations get the best of you and imagine me coming back with 50 sodas, lol. There were only 3 girls in the table and only 2 asked for sodas. Hell, I wouldnt have bothered if there were more than 6.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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