"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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evading friend zone?

mrmoe

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I was just wondeing what everyone's thoughts are on hanging out with a girl whom you have no immediate opportunity with (bf factor) but do have a mild interest in? How do you balance between hanging out with her but not falling too deep into the friend zone (so that any future possibilities go down the crapper)?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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floorman81

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I wouldn't hang out with her and be her emotional tampon, however I would stay in loose contact with her and then make a move in if they break up.

This keeps you still in the game, still in her mind, but dosen't make you so available you fall into the "friendzone"
 

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That's what I was thinking. I haven't really hung out with her but she does seem keen on hanging out on a very casual basis with a couple other mutual friends. I guess I should've added that part, heh.
 

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Originally posted by Skullcrusher
You can't evade what you can't control.
Well said skull, if you have an intial intrest in her and you keep hangin out with her pretending to be friends.....chances are you will turn afc.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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