I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Strelok said:As if everyone is made to have a certain proportion and if u try to cut down one the other falls to match the proportion again.
q: How do you develope a "healty sleeping pattern" ?The Bad Ass Canadian said:That's basically the jiist of it.
Do not mess with your hormones. If you feel something is up, go see a doctor, but otherwise the right nutrition plan and exercise plan combined with proper sleep patterns will self regulate your hormones.
Sleep is key. Get to bed by 10:00pm and get up by 6am, regularly. (weekends you can get away with late nights, as long as you're eating really well) Your growth, rest and repair cycles which are hormone driven operate at peak efficiency between the hours of 10pm and 6am. Sleeping in the daytime does not have the same effect on your growth and repair cycles, because these are circadian rhythms driven by the day night cycle.
Physical growth and repair happen between 10pm and 2am and mental/cognitive rejuvenation happens between 2am and 6am. If you get to bed even an hour late, you're cutting into your growth and repair cycles.
I have a lot of clients who don't get better until I get them sleeping properly. It is as important as diet and exercise and people think I'm crazy when I tell them this, until they spend a month doing it and noticing the changes in their day to day performance in and out of the gym.
Nimm said:q: How do you develope a "healty sleeping pattern" ?
I see that you suggest 8 hours of sleep? I`ve never been able to sleep more than 7 top, No matter how tiered or sleep deprived i am.
I`ve tried going to bed early, but can`t go to sleep after ive lied in my bed 2-3 hours. So useally a "night`s sleep" is 4-5 hours max for me..
Sorry if the question isn`t related to the topic...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thanks for the reply,The Bad Ass Canadian said:I'll tell you how:
Turn off your computer. Turn off the TV. Dim the lights in the evening and read a book, or do some yoga or something like that.
Cortisol and Melatonin are the two chief regulators of circadian rhythm. At 6am, your body releases cortisol and this is supposed to wake you up. Cortisol is at it's peak by noon and then slowly dips throughout the day and by 6pm melatonin (the sleep inducing hormone) begins to rise and take over. Melatonin is at its peak by about midnight.
Computer screens, TVs, loud music, stress, anxiety caffeinated beverages after noontime) and all the other things we preoccupy ourselves with, daily tend to keep us jacked up on cortisol. So if you are staying up late and surfing the net and watching TV (these screens act like strobe lights) you are keeping your cortisol levels high, when melatonin should be taking over.
You need to make big changes if you want to look and feel your best.
If you can only sleep 4-5 hours a night, you are in for big trouble down the road and I'd urge you to address this stuff now.
Shallow, restless sleep is a sign that something is up. Stress, and possibly even a parasite infection could be to blame. Or just a very messed up circadian rhythm that has been entrained to not get deep restful sleep. That can take a long time to fix, but there's no time like the present.