"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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escalating?

tbhforever

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how can i START to flirt with a girl, i realized what my trouble is is starting out.
i feel like if i do then the girl will think it came out of nowhere and awkward.

if a girl flirts with me first then i can just come back with some good stuff and make them like me.

what are some basic lines/things i can do to go from normal mode to game mode.
of course im not gonna repeat exactly what you say but i just need some examples and stuff to give me the right idea
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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eaglez1177

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Well to me it seems like you want to flirt with her, but your worried you may over-do it/come on too hard. In that case, just start out with very simple, basic flirting, but make it strong enough that she knows you're actually flirting with her and not just being friendly/nice. Also, you cant expect a girl to flirt with you first, so you should always be the one to initiate things. Girls like a guy that has confidence and balls, so go ahead and show her.

There are no actual canned lines/things I can tell you about to flirt with her, but instead read up on the techniques used in the DJ Bible (read it), and then apply that to your every day self, attitude, and talking.

It also seems you need to work on your inner game and build up your confidence, because that would explain why you have trouble "starting out".

Theres so many other things when it comes to flirting, such as kino, ****y and funny, neg hits, body language, etc. I cant go through them all but if you go through the DJ bible you will understand what im saying.
 

Ice882

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eaglez1177 said:
Well to me it seems like you want to flirt with her, but your worried you may over-do it/come on too hard. In that case, just start out with very simple, basic flirting, but make it strong enough that she knows you're actually flirting with her and not just being friendly/nice. Also, you cant expect a girl to flirt with you first, so you should always be the one to initiate things. Girls like a guy that has confidence and balls, so go ahead and show her.
What is it that distinguishes flirty language from friendly language, though? What keys a girl in to subtle flirting? I ask because I sometimes end up FZed because I don't come on strong enough.
 

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ESCALATING is about kino and touching her. No lines/phrases required. Let your body language do the speaking for itself. Too many guys here (especially in the HS forum) are afraid of escalating because they don't want to come off horny or perverted. Guess what guys, you're all men. It's hard coded into our genes to want to sleep with as many woman as we possibly can. There is no shame in that. Always escalate until you can't no more. I don't care how "innocent" you think this girl is. Every girl likes to be touched. Every girl wants a man to hold them, and kiss them, take off their panties and fvck them like the wild animals they are. Got nothing to say? Then touch her.
 
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