"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Escalating Relationships

DJx420

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I've never been the type of guy that gets into relationships but I've recently decided that I want to give it a shot and see what its all about. Now my problem lays in escalating a relationship past just drunk makeouts/one night stands.

I just honestly don't know what to do. For example, there is this girl, Kate. Now I've been sporatically hooking up with this girl for about 2 years. And by sporatically I mean like once a month TOPS. Now I've tried to take it a step further with this girl and have failed time and time and time again. I don't know what my problem is but I can't escalate with this girl. I know its not something to do with her because I've tried this with numerous girls and have failed. So my question to you guys is what do I do to take things further with girls in general.

I figured the move is to see them SOBER. So I asked her to come over a few times to chill and its never worked out. I've pregame with her a bunch of times but it just hasn't gotten any further and I need to know what works for you guys in these types of situations.
Thanks in advance.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Chrom3y

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Umm...do you kiss her neck when you guys are making out? Do that and slowly start touching her more and more and see how she reacts. If she doesn't stop you then keep going :). But if you guys hook up a lot it shouldn't be too hard to get her wet and ready.
 

DJx420

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Thanks for the response but I'm not talking about escalating in the bedroom. That I'm pretty sure I can take care of myself. I'm saying I want to escalate my relationship with her. As in I want to see if her and I can start hooking up "exclusively." I have yet to be able to pull it off.
 

Jay Dee

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Start getting her doing things with you so she can subconsciously start making a bond with you. I don't just mean sex, but get her to go shopping with you, or a quick bite to eat after a bedroom session, etc, start off every few weeks so she slowly gets used to it and eventually expects it. Start finding out about more about her too, things you've not asked her yet.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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scrouds

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Sounds like you're trying to ruin a perfectly good fbuddy relationship.

Instead, find a different girl, and don't try to remake the world.
 
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