"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Escalating Relationships

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DJx420

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I've never been the type of guy that gets into relationships but I've recently decided that I want to give it a shot and see what its all about. Now my problem lays in escalating a relationship past just drunk makeouts/one night stands.

I just honestly don't know what to do. For example, there is this girl, Kate. Now I've been sporatically hooking up with this girl for about 2 years. And by sporatically I mean like once a month TOPS. Now I've tried to take it a step further with this girl and have failed time and time and time again. I don't know what my problem is but I can't escalate with this girl. I know its not something to do with her because I've tried this with numerous girls and have failed. So my question to you guys is what do I do to take things further with girls in general.

I figured the move is to see them SOBER. So I asked her to come over a few times to chill and its never worked out. I've pregame with her a bunch of times but it just hasn't gotten any further and I need to know what works for you guys in these types of situations.
Thanks in advance.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Umm...do you kiss her neck when you guys are making out? Do that and slowly start touching her more and more and see how she reacts. If she doesn't stop you then keep going :). But if you guys hook up a lot it shouldn't be too hard to get her wet and ready.
 
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Thanks for the response but I'm not talking about escalating in the bedroom. That I'm pretty sure I can take care of myself. I'm saying I want to escalate my relationship with her. As in I want to see if her and I can start hooking up "exclusively." I have yet to be able to pull it off.
 
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Start getting her doing things with you so she can subconsciously start making a bond with you. I don't just mean sex, but get her to go shopping with you, or a quick bite to eat after a bedroom session, etc, start off every few weeks so she slowly gets used to it and eventually expects it. Start finding out about more about her too, things you've not asked her yet.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sounds like you're trying to ruin a perfectly good fbuddy relationship.

Instead, find a different girl, and don't try to remake the world.
 
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