I added this girl on facebook, she likes me defo from the signals, and I don't think I've given much though. I added her on facebook, and she said thanks for the add and i made a ****y+funny comment back. Now I don't know how to escalate. I got her number wehn we first meet, but I don't feel comofrtable phoning her, and asking her out, I haven't really built much rapport. What could be my next move guys?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Escalating conversation
- Thread starter R1ch4rd
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Text her then - be random with your response times and limit yourself as to how often you reply I usually text late at night so I can use the excuse I have to go to bed this way I end the conversation first, find out what she loves, ask her what about it excites her and fulfills her about it... tell her what you think and try go into depth... imaginations are forced to run wild with texting so try touch on something she really loves then leave her in that state by cutting communication - she'll anchor those awesome feelings to you and then miss you. The BEST gift you can give to any woman is the gift of missing you.
kdnash82
Master Don Juan
I would do just the opposite. I would call and have a conversation. Especially since it's Monday. Asking a girl what she did over her weekend would open a flood gate of things to talk about. The trick is to keep it short and to the point. You're not calling because you actually care about her weekend. You're calling to set up the date.
The date is where you escalate. Not phones, texting, and internet. When you're ready to wrap up the convo (when you're ready, not her), you throw out an invite for you guys to hang out sometime soon. Have a set day and time. If you don't have one, she'll asumme you meant whenever your paths cross again in the future.
So, call, set up a date, and on the date escalate.
The date is where you escalate. Not phones, texting, and internet. When you're ready to wrap up the convo (when you're ready, not her), you throw out an invite for you guys to hang out sometime soon. Have a set day and time. If you don't have one, she'll asumme you meant whenever your paths cross again in the future.
So, call, set up a date, and on the date escalate.
kdnash82
Master Don Juan
So you're afraid of rejection? I can understand, but what you should know is that life is full of rejection so you might as well get us to it now.
Regardless if I've known a girl for 5 years or 5 minutes, conversation is conversation. I talk about everything and it all starts with 1 question. Doesn't matter what that question is, as long as you get a response. It's always the same. I ask, she answers, I respond with my own experience to the subject and ask another question on the same subject or if she added a detail that stuck out, change to that detail and ask another question. The cycle then repeats. She'll eventually ask you a question. Instead of giving a one word response, answer with details, then ask her the same exact question, but worded differently. Cycle then repeats.
I honestly had to think about it before, but now it's so natural it weirds me out. I don't even think about it. Afterwards, I'm amazed because I wasn't always like this.
So, call her tonight. Not too early or late and have a conversation. Just remember your goal is to ask her out and not to really have a conversation. The coversation is just the ice breaker to your true intentions.
Regardless if I've known a girl for 5 years or 5 minutes, conversation is conversation. I talk about everything and it all starts with 1 question. Doesn't matter what that question is, as long as you get a response. It's always the same. I ask, she answers, I respond with my own experience to the subject and ask another question on the same subject or if she added a detail that stuck out, change to that detail and ask another question. The cycle then repeats. She'll eventually ask you a question. Instead of giving a one word response, answer with details, then ask her the same exact question, but worded differently. Cycle then repeats.
I honestly had to think about it before, but now it's so natural it weirds me out. I don't even think about it. Afterwards, I'm amazed because I wasn't always like this.
So, call her tonight. Not too early or late and have a conversation. Just remember your goal is to ask her out and not to really have a conversation. The coversation is just the ice breaker to your true intentions.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
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These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Right been couple of days. Talking beens going well. Shes even saying bye with a love you. Now today she started a conversation. we have been flirting and I have had our own nicknames and story from when we first meet what is very good. Today she said that she was "going to meet another boy" and then some mates, and then she added that sentace with "not that it would help if i say that" I don't know why she said that, but for some reason i'm thinking it as she wants me to win her over a bit more. What do you guys think
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Will do. Shes on msn but on her mobile, and shes not replying. i rang her last night and she even came up with things to talk about but then she had to go. I don't know whether to ring her today or text her or leave it for a bit. Shes up for going out with me, but i said somewhere bit far away last time lol and she was having a playful tease with me about it so i'll ask her out to somehere nearer this time
She hung up on the phone, i tried ringing her back(shes asked me to ring back when i rang first time when she didnt answer). she text back saying that she cants answer her fone now, "i knw ur going to miss talking to me but yo know x". I text back, "yh shame(bit sarcastic) then "no texting either?"
she never replied. I went to talk to her that night and yesturday on msn but she hasn't replied. I don't want to text or ring her obviously, she seems to of gone cold, or shes just having problems with msn who knows.
I'm planning to follow her and go cold aswell.
she never replied. I went to talk to her that night and yesturday on msn but she hasn't replied. I don't want to text or ring her obviously, she seems to of gone cold, or shes just having problems with msn who knows.
I'm planning to follow her and go cold aswell.
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and love hearts. I'm a bit stumped from here, apart from acting cool, still confident, funny etc“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.