I added this girl on facebook, she likes me defo from the signals, and I don't think I've given much though. I added her on facebook, and she said thanks for the add and i made a ****y+funny comment back. Now I don't know how to escalate. I got her number wehn we first meet, but I don't feel comofrtable phoning her, and asking her out, I haven't really built much rapport. What could be my next move guys?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Escalating conversation
- Thread starter R1ch4rd
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
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Text her then - be random with your response times and limit yourself as to how often you reply I usually text late at night so I can use the excuse I have to go to bed this way I end the conversation first, find out what she loves, ask her what about it excites her and fulfills her about it... tell her what you think and try go into depth... imaginations are forced to run wild with texting so try touch on something she really loves then leave her in that state by cutting communication - she'll anchor those awesome feelings to you and then miss you. The BEST gift you can give to any woman is the gift of missing you.
kdnash82
Master Don Juan
I would do just the opposite. I would call and have a conversation. Especially since it's Monday. Asking a girl what she did over her weekend would open a flood gate of things to talk about. The trick is to keep it short and to the point. You're not calling because you actually care about her weekend. You're calling to set up the date.
The date is where you escalate. Not phones, texting, and internet. When you're ready to wrap up the convo (when you're ready, not her), you throw out an invite for you guys to hang out sometime soon. Have a set day and time. If you don't have one, she'll asumme you meant whenever your paths cross again in the future.
So, call, set up a date, and on the date escalate.
The date is where you escalate. Not phones, texting, and internet. When you're ready to wrap up the convo (when you're ready, not her), you throw out an invite for you guys to hang out sometime soon. Have a set day and time. If you don't have one, she'll asumme you meant whenever your paths cross again in the future.
So, call, set up a date, and on the date escalate.
kdnash82
Master Don Juan
So you're afraid of rejection? I can understand, but what you should know is that life is full of rejection so you might as well get us to it now.
Regardless if I've known a girl for 5 years or 5 minutes, conversation is conversation. I talk about everything and it all starts with 1 question. Doesn't matter what that question is, as long as you get a response. It's always the same. I ask, she answers, I respond with my own experience to the subject and ask another question on the same subject or if she added a detail that stuck out, change to that detail and ask another question. The cycle then repeats. She'll eventually ask you a question. Instead of giving a one word response, answer with details, then ask her the same exact question, but worded differently. Cycle then repeats.
I honestly had to think about it before, but now it's so natural it weirds me out. I don't even think about it. Afterwards, I'm amazed because I wasn't always like this.
So, call her tonight. Not too early or late and have a conversation. Just remember your goal is to ask her out and not to really have a conversation. The coversation is just the ice breaker to your true intentions.
Regardless if I've known a girl for 5 years or 5 minutes, conversation is conversation. I talk about everything and it all starts with 1 question. Doesn't matter what that question is, as long as you get a response. It's always the same. I ask, she answers, I respond with my own experience to the subject and ask another question on the same subject or if she added a detail that stuck out, change to that detail and ask another question. The cycle then repeats. She'll eventually ask you a question. Instead of giving a one word response, answer with details, then ask her the same exact question, but worded differently. Cycle then repeats.
I honestly had to think about it before, but now it's so natural it weirds me out. I don't even think about it. Afterwards, I'm amazed because I wasn't always like this.
So, call her tonight. Not too early or late and have a conversation. Just remember your goal is to ask her out and not to really have a conversation. The coversation is just the ice breaker to your true intentions.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Right been couple of days. Talking beens going well. Shes even saying bye with a love you. Now today she started a conversation. we have been flirting and I have had our own nicknames and story from when we first meet what is very good. Today she said that she was "going to meet another boy" and then some mates, and then she added that sentace with "not that it would help if i say that" I don't know why she said that, but for some reason i'm thinking it as she wants me to win her over a bit more. What do you guys think
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Will do. Shes on msn but on her mobile, and shes not replying. i rang her last night and she even came up with things to talk about but then she had to go. I don't know whether to ring her today or text her or leave it for a bit. Shes up for going out with me, but i said somewhere bit far away last time lol and she was having a playful tease with me about it so i'll ask her out to somehere nearer this time
She hung up on the phone, i tried ringing her back(shes asked me to ring back when i rang first time when she didnt answer). she text back saying that she cants answer her fone now, "i knw ur going to miss talking to me but yo know x". I text back, "yh shame(bit sarcastic) then "no texting either?"
she never replied. I went to talk to her that night and yesturday on msn but she hasn't replied. I don't want to text or ring her obviously, she seems to of gone cold, or shes just having problems with msn who knows.
I'm planning to follow her and go cold aswell.
she never replied. I went to talk to her that night and yesturday on msn but she hasn't replied. I don't want to text or ring her obviously, she seems to of gone cold, or shes just having problems with msn who knows.
I'm planning to follow her and go cold aswell.
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and love hearts. I'm a bit stumped from here, apart from acting cool, still confident, funny etc"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.