Escalate or play it cool?

[the_m@n]

Second date synopsis,

I took her to dinner and a movie and barely watched the movie.

While driving her home I just drove my car down a side road, parked looked at her and started kissing her. She was all for it. We spent a lot of time talking in between hooking up and she asked me some much more personal questions about myself than she had on the first date.

She also told me things like "I feel like I'm out of your league." This kind of caught me off guard because it sounded like something an AFC dude would say to a chick. She told me she wasn't used to a man holding a door open for her or picking her up or basically being a gentleman. She also told me that I was nothing like she had originally expected and that I continue to be very unpredictable "in a great way". Either I'm missing something or this chick is really into me.

We made out a lot, and I did a lot of touching but she would keep stopping me before things got too escalated and kept saying that I was a "bad boy" I would back off for a little bit and try again and I would get further and further. I didn't get any sort of sexual touching from her for more than a couple of seconds but she was really into what I was doing to her up until she would lightly stop me from taking off her pants.

I am confused about what to do now. Should I keep trying on date 3 or should I just back off and take it slow? My mind is telling me that if I tell her I want to take it slow, that she will actually respect me more, and it will push me further toward my goal quicker. The alternative is if I am moving too fast for her that I may miss my goal all together. Any insight is appreciated.

 

[jophil28]

You are doing goodly my man. Just keep doing the 'to and fro' thing. Dial her up slowly. Never fails.

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

Keep going on date 3 and don't back off and take it slow.
It looks like you want a relationship with this girl. If you do, make sure you never suggest it, you don't want to give her the power. You want her to ask you "Do you like me?", this usually means she wants to chain you to a relationship if you do then she'll let you go further.

If I where you I would take her to a restaurant/bar where you guys can talk, grab a few drinks then maybe you can go all the way in your car.

Drinks always helps loosen people up lol.

But NEVER again go to movies on any of your dates unless you are already in a relationsihp.

If you have to watch a movie with a date, suggest your house or perhaps her house. If she says she wants to watch a movie in the theatre, change the plans because you can't talk which means you don't create rapport.

 

[Kailex]

Seriously, the movies crap... STOP IT.
In all of 2010, I've gone out with quite a few women.

Movie Dates: 0.

Dinner and a movie is so... ten years ago, if at all.

Now, other than that, why are you doubting everything you are doing?
It sounds like the beginning stage of a pedestalizing oneitis.

Be careful and stop thinking so much about this.
And start looking for other women to date and adopt the shotgun mentality.