"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Erections during kino.

Starrie

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I continue to get hardons about the same as when I was fifteen. I wake up with a railroad spike. I'll stretch my pants driving to work after heavy snow.

So, when I'm down her pants at a theater it happens like clockwork. Ditto if she gets on my lap when we're sharing a restaurant booth or something like that...dancing can be tricky. When things end in sex I figure that it's attractive or it just doesn't matter, that she would have indicated if it was a serious problem. However, when things don't work out I wonder if the teenage stiffy routine had something to do with it.

So far no girl has outright mentioned it and I'm sure as hell not going to just present the question.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bokanovsky

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Getting a hard on is a normal male physical reaction and I seriously doubt that a girl who is attracted to you would ever hold that against you. In fact, the opposite is more likely to be true. Think about it: if a girl you liked got wet during kino, would you think less of her? Of course not. If anything, it would be a turn on. And women are sexual beings too, you know.
 

JoeMarron

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Lol did you seriously just ask if having a boner is hurting your chances with women?
 

yuppaz

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Nah they like it. It helps your chances way more than you think...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Fly By Night

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Oh, I'm sure the older guys here are doing just fine. I'm sure they put their tool into use often enough to keep it from going rusty. :up:
 

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Bokanovsky said:
Getting a hard on is a normal male physical reaction and I seriously doubt that a girl who is attracted to you would ever hold that against you. In fact, the opposite is more likely to be true. Think about it: if a girl you liked got wet during kino, would you think less of her? Of course not. If anything, it would be a turn on. And women are sexual beings too, you know.
I don't know bro, I've had it happen. I've had gotten hot and heavy with a girl and got the normal male physical reaction, then they stop, laugh and leave. Who the hell knows why...maybe it was test, me against her boyfriend...all I know is it was held against me.

Just because a girl is making out with you doesn't mean they are attracted to you. People hold anything against you if it benefits them.
 

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Cool. I'll stop worrying so much.

Trump, ive yet to have a girl laugh or just get up and go. But I have worried that its been a factor in things not panning out. A lot of the above makes sense. If she bounces because she makes you hard, then she had already decided you aren't on her sex radar.
 

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Whenever I catch a wood like that I just show her what she did to me. And just kinda chill there until she "fixes" it... I'll usually whisper in her ear "touch it"

Hands down any woman you are sexual with would see it as a compliment.

Those boner days don't last forever bud, enjoy them... show off that wood like a fine work of art dude!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Fly By Night said:
Oh, I'm sure the older guys here are doing just fine. I'm sure they put their tool into use often enough to keep it from going rusty. :up:
or theres that little blue pill:crackup:
 
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