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afc001

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Well guys the thing is I'm normally a rather strong guy but occasionally I have these episodes of extreme weakness. Like when I could usually without much effort do 30x4 reps of pushups (I'm not training regularly, just experimenting occasionally..) , somehow there are days when I am having difficulty with just 30x1 ! Is this normal. Any comments/ideas?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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afc001 said:
Well guys the thing is I'm normally a rather strong guy but occasionally I have these episodes of extreme weakness. Like when I could usually without much effort do 30x4 reps of pushups (I'm not training regularly, just experimenting occasionally..) , somehow there are days when I am having difficulty with just 30x1 ! Is this normal. Any comments/ideas?
30x4? 120 reps? Could be a good thing, could be a bad thing. How heavy are you? If you are thin, than you should bulk up first if you want weightlifting to do anything for you. Read the "for skinny guys" thread and you'll understand. If you are large, and you just have underdeveloped muscles than you should focus on working your muscles for strength instead of endurance. Having weak muscles and overexrting yourself to lift your own body weight shouldn't be an issue, and if it is you may injure yourself.

What are you doing on your weak days? Is it your mental state, are you so depressed that lifting makes you want to cry, or are you just lifting and going "unnn, but its too heavyyyyy"? Get your head set on lifting if you're going to start pumping you put your entire head into it, don't let yourself get distracted by the rest of your life unless its going to get you to push even harder.

You sound like you're underdeveloped. Either atrophy of your muscles under the fat, or just a lack of nutrients. So you need to begin with the basics. Some curls, and aerobics should be your main workout. Get some blood flowing to your muscles. Come back in a week and choose a regimen that sounds good to you and stick with it, its better to have a good mental state so you continue your progress, rather than choosing a gruelling regimen that'll make you want to quit early.
 

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Diet. Sleep. Recovery. Illness.

Could be any, or a combination of any of those problems.
 

itishe

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Your head isn't in the right spot. I have those days where I go to the gym only because I feel I should. Those are the days when I suck at the gym period.

You need to watch a little hardcore choke + anal porn, listen to some metal or rap, punch some **** then go hit the gym.
 

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thank you for replies. I joined a gym yesterday and it was one of those bad days. I performed terrible, lifting about the same as I did in school back when I was 16y/o and 10kg lighter :s . Must be the 3x a week vodka/beer+antibiotics I'm eating lately. Lets try dropping 'em.
 

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Well I was going to say depression but all those chemicals can't be good for your performance either. Rest up, and when that infection subsides hit the gym.
 

donjuanjovi

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afc001 said:
Must be the 3x a week vodka/beer+antibiotics I'm eating lately. Lets try dropping 'em.

NAHHHHHHH, That couldn't possibly have anything to do with it! :rolleyes:
 

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I am sure many have those weeks where last week you pumped away at big poundage and then this week you have to lower it to get through the workout or you have to do less sets.

I believe that is normal and of coarse it depends on age too but I know when it happens to me I hate it cause my mind is ready but my body seems to say leave me alone.

LoneSilver
 

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It happens, so dont worry about it unless its everyday. I've trained for 10yrs and I have them too. Sometimes days just suck, and sometimes they rock. As Forrest Gump says....**** happens.

No need to worry. Your going to have them, and that's life.
 
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