Epic blind date tomorrow

[WorkHardPlayHard]

I'll keep it brief. I was out drinking with my chick roommate an we met this super chill, good-looking chick. We're just conversing, enjoying drinks at this hip bar. Her boyfriend comes and meets up - cool dude. We have a few more drinks and the chick says she has a girlfriend I have to take on a date.

Obviously, I'm interested. She tells me the girl has never really been on a date. She graduated highschool early, then decided to travel as an entertainer. Says the chick is a total babe, early 20s, but just never cared to pursue guys or relationships.

I express a little interest, she calls her friend. Her boyfriend and I talk 1:1, and he tells me I'm crazy if I don't do it. Apparently the chick is a smokeshow.

Anyways, so the girl refuses to show me pics, refuses to give me her number. Said she'll give a first name, an address, and a restaurant recommendation. All I have to do is execute. She said she trusts me to be a gentlemen and a potential good match for her friend.

The agreed upon time is tomorrow evening. Reservation made. I scoped the address, it's at the end of a cult-de-sac in the burbs. The girl is only home for 6 months, so she lives with her parents, something I was warned she'd be sort of embarassed about.

What the **** do I do tomorrow? Do I walk up and knock on the door? Do I sit in my car and wait for her? I got the girl from the bar's number. Do I text her a midday date confirmation?

I've never been on a blind date like this. I've never walked up to a girl's parent's door to meet her. I have total confidence in my ability to execute once we're out. I just have no clue what the hell to do in this awkward early stage, with a girl I assume is also going to be awkward. Girl is early 20's and I'm mid 20's, for what it's worth.

Advice, please. I have a date later in the week too, so it's not even like I'm stressing going on a date. Pretty seasoned at dating and know how to play early relationships. It's just the sheer craziness of this one has got me anxious. First time I've been anxious for a date in a while.

 

[Obsidian]

Since this seems to be a big deal to you:

Just text her earlier that day to confirm what time you'll be showing up, and to say that you'll call when you pull up. Then call when you pull up.

Also, read the Book of Pook as soon as you get a chance.

 

[marmel75]

You act like a man and walk up to her door. If her parents answer, be cordial to them and let them know you are their to pick up ***name***. If they start asking questions, then answer them within reason. Don't be overly nice, but don't be a d!ck either. You aren't sure how important what her parents think of you will be, don't come off as too nice but don't come off as an @sshole her parents are going to try and steer her away from either.

When she comes to the door give her a hug and tell her thanks for joining me for dinner or something of the sort...then open her car door for her and see if she reaches over to unlock your side for you(the old Sonny from Bronx Tale's test)...you aren't trying to marry this chick so pass or fail, who cares, but it will give you a slight insight into the type of person she is...

Then go out and have fun. Hopefully you have somewhere to take her if things get that far because obviously its not happening at her house, lol...

 

[marmel75]

Since this seems to be a big deal to you:

Just text her earlier that day to confirm what time you'll be showing up, and to say that you'll call when you pull up. Then call when you pull up.

Also, read the Book of Pook as soon as you get a chance.

He can't text her, he doesn't have her number.

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

Alright, guys. By the sounds of it, I have to go full-on gentleman mode. Walk up to the door, shake hands with whoever answers. Open car doors, restaurant doors. Etc, etc. And yeah, I don't have her number. The girl at the bar said she likes people to meet organically (she's this hippie hairdresser type chick). I'm all for trying new things.

Anyways, I'll be as confident a I can. I'll have to fake it till I make it to some degree, just given how abnormal this situation is to me.

Gonna text friend at noon, just to lock the date in. The friend had even texted me later in the night to not stand the girl up.

Let you all know how it goes.

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

You act like a man and walk up to her door. If her parents answer, be cordial to them and let them know you are their to pick up ***name***. If they start asking questions, then answer them within reason. Don't be overly nice, but don't be a d!ck either. You aren't sure how important what her parents think of you will be, don't come off as too nice but don't come off as an @sshole her parents are going to try and steer her away from either.

When she comes to the door give her a hug and tell her thanks for joining me for dinner or something of the sort...then open her car door for her and see if she reaches over to unlock your side for you(the old Sonny from Bronx Tale's test)...you aren't trying to marry this chick so pass or fail, who cares, but it will give you a slight insight into the type of person she is...

Then go out and have fun. Hopefully you have somewhere to take her if things get that far because obviously its not happening at her house, lol...

Really solid advice. Thanks, man. I just no idea what to expect. I'm good enough with parents and confident enough in myself to put myself in that position, though it'll be a little nerve-wracking, so be it.

As for the date plans, her friend picked the spot: a hip, new, sort of spendy greek restaurant. Her friend has really high EQ/"emotional intelligence" (though she was pretty dense otherwise), so I trust her to make those calls. I mean, she got her friend to go on her first date ever with a guy she knew for about 2 hours. Going with the woman's instinct here.

I'll play it by ear, as far as doing anything after dinner. If I meet her parents, I'll probably make a point of bringing her home early, regardless of whether or not I'm into her. If I'm into her, I look good in front of the parents and control when the date ends. If I'm not into her, I can get home as early as reasonable.

 

[blind_one]

Solid advice, as stated before. Go up there and pick her up expect that it might be her that answers the door. If not just tell you came to pick up XXX.

You will act chill and look for red flags. You will find out if she's a whack job or not, dinner date or not remember, its supposed to be fun !

Keep us posted

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Please, whatever happens, DO NOT hug her when you meet, nor when you depart. Why on Earth would you hug someone you only just layed eyes on? That's probably potentially the most socially-awkward thing you can do. Weird.

Just take her hand in both of yours, not to be shaken, but to be held for a couple of seconds and say, 'Wow, what a pleasure to meet you'.

Kiss her goodnight. Then make out on date two. Done.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Advice, please.

Here's my advice:

1) Remove words like "super chill" and other teenager lingo from your vocabulary. People will take you more seriously if you talk like an adult.

2) Ask yourself why this girl is refusing to send you her pics. Do you think it's because she is (a) an A-list celebrity; (b) a famous politician; or (c) some other reason? If the answers is "c", see #3 below.

3) A girl that has no problem giving you her address but won't show you her pics is more likely to be (a) a smokeshow or (b) a fatty? If you think the answer might be "b", see #4 below.

4) Was this girl "recommended" to you by (a) a family member; (b) a friend; (c) a trusted acquaintance; or (d) a random drunk chick you met at a bar, who may very well be having some fun at your expense?

I hope this was instructional.

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

Here's my advice:

1) Remove words like "super chill" and other teenager lingo from your vocabulary. People will take you more seriously if you talk like an adult.

2) Ask yourself why this girl is refusing to send you her pics. Do you think it's because she is (a) an A-list celebrity; (b) a famous politician; or (c) some other reason? If the answers is "c", see #3 below.

3) A girl that has no problem giving you her address but won't show you her pics is more likely to be (a) a smokeshow or (b) a fatty? If you think the answer might be "b", see #4 below.

4) Was this girl "recommended" to you by (a) a family member; (b) a friend; (c) a trusted acquaintance; or (d) a random drunk chick you met at a bar, who may very well be having some fun at your expense?

I hope this was instructional.

1.) No. Works just fine for me, and I hope you understand I talk differently with friends & on internet forums vs on a date or in a professional setting, etc.

2.) her friend refused to rummage around FB to show me a pic. Said to trust her that she's a babe. Her boyfriend, in talking to me 1:1, told me she was a babe. Now, maybe they're both liars. She said she just didn't feel she had to justify this girl's looks and that I had to take a shot. I'll know in about 2.5 hours.

3.) See #2

4.) See #3

Anyways, I appreciate the input.

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

Please, whatever happens, DO NOT hug her when you meet, nor when you depart. Why on Earth would you hug someone you only just layed eyes on? That's probably potentially the most socially-awkward thing you can do. Weird.

Just take her hand in both of yours, not to be shaken, but to be held for a couple of seconds and say, 'Wow, what a pleasure to meet you'.

Kiss her goodnight. Then make out on date two. Done.

I have zero intentions to hug this chick. I'll look for signs regarding kiss, but I have to expect this chick is pretty inexperienced in all things even remotely intimate if she's never really dated.

And yeah, I definitely her to be at least a little quirky. Whether it comes off as cute or repulsive is typically a fine line, so all in all, this is going to be a trip.

 

[Bokanovsky]

1.) No. Works just fine for me, and I hope you understand I talk differently with friends & on internet forums vs on a date or in a professional setting, etc.

2.) her friend refused to rummage around FB to show me a pic. Said to trust her that she's a babe. Her boyfriend, in talking to me 1:1, told me she was a babe. Now, maybe they're both liars. She said she just didn't feel she had to justify this girl's looks and that I had to take a shot. I'll know in about 2.5 hours.

3.) See #2

4.) See #3

Anyways, I appreciate the input.

My response was somewhat tongue-in-cheek, but I'm inclined to believe that a prank is being played on you. Do let us know how it turns out.

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

My response was somewhat tongue-in-cheek, but I'm inclined to believe that a prank is being played on you. Do let us know how it turns out.

I'd be lying if I said I had no concerns. Having pragmatically analyzed the situation, listening to my gut for the inexplicable details, I'm pretty confident this is legit though.

Frankly, the chick from the bar doesn't seem clever enough to fabricate such detailed story/plan. From choosing a hip new restaurant less than a mile from the date's house, to the backstory she provided, to getting her boyfriend to re-affirm. Plus, I was with my chick roommate who raised no concerns.

At the end of the day, I don't see this being much worse than me spending $100 and winding up with a once in a lifetime story.

You'll all be some of the first to know.

 

[G_Govan]

Not to discourage, I'd do it just out of curiosity, but does it make sense to you that this early 20s "babe" needs to be set up by her friend?

They say she's never pursued guys or had a boyfriend. That to me sounds like she's more of a ONS/booty call kind of girl, not necessarily bad if you just want something casual.

She graduated high school early and traveled the world as an entertainer? You think she wasn't out there c-ck hopping?

None of this may be a problem for you, but this story certainly doesn't sound legit. There's a catch in there somewhere. Good luck!

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

Not to discourage, I'd do it just out of curiosity, but does it make sense to you that this early 20s "babe" needs to be set up by her friend?

They say she's never pursued guys or had a boyfriend. That to me sounds like she's more of a ONS/booty call kind of girl, not necessarily bad if you just want something casual.

She graduated high school early and traveled the world as an entertainer? You think she wasn't out there c-ck hopping?

None of this may be a problem for you, but this story certainly doesn't sound legit. There's a catch in there somewhere. Good luck!

No discouragement taken, my friend. I'm not naive, nor am I lacking dates/hook-ups that would put me in a position to be myopic about this, or anything else girl-related.

Yeah, the whole thing is *really* weird, but in a "I gotta know" sort of way. Assume the worst, hope for the best.

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

And I'm back. Holy ****. Probably the best 1st date I've ever been on.

First off. Get to her place, knock on the door, she answers, I'm floored by how good looking she is. Straight startled.

Keep it cool. Take her to the restaurant. We sit outside, order food, and conversation ensues. I do a primo job keeping the convo on her, to the point she says she explicitly says she feels like she's talkign about herself too much. I play it off as her being so intersting, I can't help but want to learn more, which is actually true.

Anyways, she's genuinely intersting. I don't want to go into pointless detail about her, but she's weird. She's weird in an entrancing way. She hates clubs, crowded bars, etc, which is not normal for a girl that looks like that. She's well traveled and has lived the last 7+ years doing exactly that.

We like the same music, clothes, characteristics in people. I had her laughing. Hell, she had me laughing.

Date numero dos is on Sunday. I'm having a hard time being intersted in the girl I'm sposed to go out with on THurs and I'm thinking about flaking. Must... fight... oneitis....

Oh and no we didn't get physical outside of a brief kiss after she gave me her number and said she looked forward to seeing me again.

 

[Tictac]

You can choose oneitis if you like.

But not after a meet & greet.

 

[PipeDope]

You can choose oneitis if you like.

But not after a meet & greet.

Agreed, I think you need to wait this one out a while before you drop other plates. It sounds like she blindsided you a bit. Recollect your wits and take her out as well as other girls. Sure wish my girl was interested in traveling and staying away from the bars. It's way too common in women these days. Good luck on your next date

 

[Yewki]

Date numero dos is on Sunday. I'm having a hard time being intersted in the girl I'm sposed to go out with on THurs and I'm thinking about flaking. Must... fight... oneitis....

Sounds like you're already losing your frame bro. You're digging yourself into a hole here. Snap out of it. Stop digging and dust yourself off. Stop the pedestalization.

Go on your date Thurs with the other girl. Or at least go out and try to meet other girls.

 

[VladPatton]

Glad it went well. 9.8 times out of 10, blind dates are liquid $hit for me. But yeah, don't get too infatuated just yet, you know nothing abut her and she can be a bunny boiler. Definitely go out with other chicks. Force yourself to.