Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Entrance Test

Bussey

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I recently noticed that A LOT of new posters seem to talk like their experts. How about having a sign up test. If they pass they get in, no problem, if there answers suggest AFCness or Oneitis.. on their screenname, under where the post number is, it says "AFC Test Score" etc. Once they hit 150-200 posts or like 3 months, it goes away. This way old members can take it and pass, and new members will be taken as they are.

Credibility in posts is not something that is given.. it should be earned.

Just an idea...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Eternal

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Originally posted by Bussey
I recently noticed that A LOT of new posters seem to talk like their experts. How about having a sign up test. If they pass they get in, no problem, if there answers suggest AFCness or Oneitis.. on their screenname, under where the post number is, it says "AFC Test Score" etc. Once they hit 150-200 posts or like 3 months, it goes away. This way old members can take it and pass, and new members will be taken as they are.

Credibility in posts is not something that is given.. it should be earned.

Just an idea...
*Cough*Searchplease*Cough*
 

Giovanni Casanova

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Originally posted by Bussey
Haha my bad, I don't ever search for anything.
Then you have failed the entrance test. Go away.
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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oh yeah and what kind of questions, people will just look up the stuff find it answer the question simple as that and if they do not do ok they will try again with a new name. Beings a DJ is more then knowing the theory, if i know i have to be confident and should not de desprate, does that make me a DJ.

and why would 200 posts or 3 months make some one a DJ some people just do not have a clue and they could have lots of posts and have been here a year and not know what they are talking about.

I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member. -Groucho Marx
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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KnightRyder

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it'll be too much work/hassle . you 'd have lower posting as a result.
 

penkitten

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<---- look to the left


see the word registered?
see the date?

thats where you see when the person registered.

o wow , no search button required!!
 

Vincent

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god dammit!
 

CableLight

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This sorta thing was suggested like...a while ago...yeah.

Anyway...The whole "Entrance Test" thing isn't totally feasible unless you know someone who's going to put in the wrench time to not only write it up, have Allen implement it, but keep it updated as well. Also, the idea of having the "AFC Test Score" thing go away after a few months is only incentive for someone to go post-crazy. I think - if anything - if a person got a low test score that they would be required to take it again after some predetermined time span has passed.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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CobaltBlue

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
oh yeah and what kind of questions, people will just look up the stuff find it answer the question simple as that.
At least they'll be learning then!
 

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if there answers suggest AFCness or Oneitis
Youre implying that all of the bible is written in stone. Its not. There is more than one answer to many questions. And we were all AFCs in the beginning. The test wont tell us anything new.
 
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