You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I don't watch enough TV to justify 15 bucks a month for HBO...i buy the seasons on DVD when they come out. Wish they had those on the apple TV store.Zerix said:Is it just me or there isn't a single thread on this ****ing awesome show?
Discuss, season 4 premiers next Sunday. Gonna make a day out of it.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Haha, I love that movie, and I love that quote. Greed is good.theunflushables said:Whats wrong with greed and Materialism? In the words of Michael Douglas in "Wall Street" "Greed, for a lack of a better word, is good..."
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ok lol not a whole day but I'm a be chillin with my buddy (who I watch the show with), and since he has east and west channels, we're gonna first watch it at 7, then go to a cafe that's near him, smoke some hookah, roll a joint, and enjoy it one more time in a different perspectiveDeus ex Pianoforte said:Yes, this is my favorite show atm. Just got one of the watches they wear on the show off hbo.com. But Zerix, just out of curiosity...how do you plan on making a day out of a 22 minute long show?
And what are you talking about, "materialism", mahon? They sold their home to realize Vince's artistic dream, man. Besides. It's show BUSINESS. Everyone on the show is in the BUSINESS to make money. Lots of money.
So there is no materialism heh? How about spending 100K to throw a birthday party on a boat or Turtle trying to buy sneakers that cost 10K or something.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Yes, this is my favorite show atm. Just got one of the watches they wear on the show off hbo.com. But Zerix, just out of curiosity...how do you plan on making a day out of a 22 minute long show?
And what are you talking about, "materialism", mahon? They sold their home to realize Vince's artistic dream, man. Besides. It's show BUSINESS. Everyone on the show is in the BUSINESS to make money. Lots of money.
I am NOT saying all Hollywood stars are greedy, materialistic and don't give away money...but alot of them are. Materialism and greed DOES NOT lead to happiness because you are always left wanting more. Look at Michael Douglas in Wall Street. Charlies Sheen says something to him like, "When is enough enough, how many yachts can you ski behind?"theunflushables said:I make less than 20k a year, I can only afford to eat two meals a day and I still feel guilty that there are people who are starving. There will always be people starving. Infact stars generally do give away large sums of money for different causes. Remember it was the celebrities who brought attention to Darfur. They jumped on the (Red) Campaign, Katrina, the Tidal Wave, Idol gives back. Yeah, maybe they don't spend a whole ton of their money on causes, but still they give. Which is more than what most of the population does.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dang, yeah, inform them about that and get it switched. But other than that, happy with your purchase (if there wouldn't have been a defect)?Deus ex Pianoforte said:So yeah, that premiere was badass. I guess now we'll get to see how Medellin does at the box office. Vince will probably get even more famous now. I was busting up when that writer guy was all, "Yeah, I've never been paid NOT to work, before...it was nice, actually." What a great show.
P.S. Zerix, I got the watch. It's great and all, but it stopped a few times already for about 10 minutes. It might just be a defect though, so I'll probably have to send it back.![]()
Yea, it was pretty good. Turtle is a loser, what would he do without leaching off of Vince Chase.Zerix said:Dang, yeah, inform them about that and get it switched. But other than that, happy with your purchase (if there wouldn't have been a defect)?
This premiere was kick ass!! I was laughing my ass off when Johnny was like "yeah, that guy was me, I got a handjob..." haha and then Turtle busts on him haha.
Man, next Sunday is a while away! :yes:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.