You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I don't watch enough TV to justify 15 bucks a month for HBO...i buy the seasons on DVD when they come out. Wish they had those on the apple TV store.Zerix said:Is it just me or there isn't a single thread on this ****ing awesome show?
Discuss, season 4 premiers next Sunday. Gonna make a day out of it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Haha, I love that movie, and I love that quote. Greed is good.theunflushables said:Whats wrong with greed and Materialism? In the words of Michael Douglas in "Wall Street" "Greed, for a lack of a better word, is good..."
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Ok lol not a whole day but I'm a be chillin with my buddy (who I watch the show with), and since he has east and west channels, we're gonna first watch it at 7, then go to a cafe that's near him, smoke some hookah, roll a joint, and enjoy it one more time in a different perspectiveDeus ex Pianoforte said:Yes, this is my favorite show atm. Just got one of the watches they wear on the show off hbo.com. But Zerix, just out of curiosity...how do you plan on making a day out of a 22 minute long show?
And what are you talking about, "materialism", mahon? They sold their home to realize Vince's artistic dream, man. Besides. It's show BUSINESS. Everyone on the show is in the BUSINESS to make money. Lots of money.
So there is no materialism heh? How about spending 100K to throw a birthday party on a boat or Turtle trying to buy sneakers that cost 10K or something.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Yes, this is my favorite show atm. Just got one of the watches they wear on the show off hbo.com. But Zerix, just out of curiosity...how do you plan on making a day out of a 22 minute long show?
And what are you talking about, "materialism", mahon? They sold their home to realize Vince's artistic dream, man. Besides. It's show BUSINESS. Everyone on the show is in the BUSINESS to make money. Lots of money.
I am NOT saying all Hollywood stars are greedy, materialistic and don't give away money...but alot of them are. Materialism and greed DOES NOT lead to happiness because you are always left wanting more. Look at Michael Douglas in Wall Street. Charlies Sheen says something to him like, "When is enough enough, how many yachts can you ski behind?"theunflushables said:I make less than 20k a year, I can only afford to eat two meals a day and I still feel guilty that there are people who are starving. There will always be people starving. Infact stars generally do give away large sums of money for different causes. Remember it was the celebrities who brought attention to Darfur. They jumped on the (Red) Campaign, Katrina, the Tidal Wave, Idol gives back. Yeah, maybe they don't spend a whole ton of their money on causes, but still they give. Which is more than what most of the population does.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dang, yeah, inform them about that and get it switched. But other than that, happy with your purchase (if there wouldn't have been a defect)?Deus ex Pianoforte said:So yeah, that premiere was badass. I guess now we'll get to see how Medellin does at the box office. Vince will probably get even more famous now. I was busting up when that writer guy was all, "Yeah, I've never been paid NOT to work, before...it was nice, actually." What a great show.
P.S. Zerix, I got the watch. It's great and all, but it stopped a few times already for about 10 minutes. It might just be a defect though, so I'll probably have to send it back.![]()
Yea, it was pretty good. Turtle is a loser, what would he do without leaching off of Vince Chase.Zerix said:Dang, yeah, inform them about that and get it switched. But other than that, happy with your purchase (if there wouldn't have been a defect)?
This premiere was kick ass!! I was laughing my ass off when Johnny was like "yeah, that guy was me, I got a handjob..." haha and then Turtle busts on him haha.
Man, next Sunday is a while away! :yes:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.